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noodlebum wrote: ↑Tue Feb 11, 2020 9:03 pm I like watching PJ's Twitch streams; Stardew Valley is so relaxing

obsessivelymoody wrote: ↑Tue Feb 11, 2020 11:52 pm Me, emotional about a photo of dips? More likely than you'd think

It's just so domestic I can't!!

blahblahblah8 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 12:29 am

noodlebum wrote: ↑Tue Feb 11, 2020 9:03 pm I like watching PJ's Twitch streams; Stardew Valley is so relaxing

I didn’t know pj played Stardew valley! It’s my fav game, I’m gonna check out his streams! But also this makes me hope Phil sees and gets inspired to play Stardew on his streams! He mentioned playing apex again a few live shows ago so I hope he comes through with that. But even little stuff like the Wikipedia game last live show was fun!

alittledizzy wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 1:12 am Can our location experts tell me where they're sitting to eat? That many dips so close to that quilt makes me twitchy omg. I hope it's just Dan eating them and not Phil with his less than stellar hand eye coordination.

sarmstr2 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 12:51 am

blahblahblah8 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 12:29 am
I didn’t know pj played Stardew valley! It’s my fav game, I’m gonna check out his streams! But also this makes me hope Phil sees and gets inspired to play Stardew on his streams! He mentioned playing apex again a few live shows ago so I hope he comes through with that. But even little stuff like the Wikipedia game last live show was fun!

His streams are amazing! I watch them at work for background noise

sarmstr2 wrote: ↑Wed Feb 12, 2020 12:51 am It got me into the game and now I'm obsessed.

obsessivelymoody wrote: ↑Tue Feb 11, 2020 11:52 pm Me, emotional about a photo of dips? More likely than you'd think

It's just so domestic I can't!!

alittledizzy wrote: ↑Thu Feb 13, 2020 1:13 am
Thoughts on if it'll be strictly early-days career focused or cover his coming out at all?

Here’s where same-sex couples can offer their different-sex counterparts useful tips. Since same-sex couples can’t use imputed male-female differences to sort out who does what, they rely less on stereotypes. Heterosexual parents tend to see tasks such as child care, laundry and dishes as part of a package that is handed to one partner. Same-sex couples are far more likely to each take on some traditionally “feminine” and some “masculine” chores.

They are also more likely to share the routine tasks. A 2015 survey found that almost half of dual-earner, same-sex couples shared laundry duties, compared with just under a third of different-sex couples. And a whopping 74 percent of same-sex couples shared routine child care, compared with only 38 percent of straight couples.
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They are also more likely to talk through their individual preferences about who does what at home. This is especially true for gay males and is probably why they express the most satisfaction with the division of labor.
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Children living with same-sex parents experienced, on average, three and a half hours of parenting time per day, compared with two and a half for children living with a heterosexual couple.
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A 12-year comparison of how couples initiate and handle disagreements identified other strengths of same-sex couples. The researchers John Gottman and Robert Levenson found that gays and lesbians who discussed a disagreement with their partner did so in less belligerent, domineering and fearful ways than different-sex individuals, possibly because they did not bring the same history of power inequalities to the table. Same-sex couples used more affection and humor while discussing their disagreements, became less agitated and calmed down more quickly afterward than different-sex couples.

Even in ordinary daily interactions, people in same-sex unions use more positive methods of influencing a partner, studies find, than individuals in different-sex partnerships, offering encouragement and praise rather than criticism, lectures or appeals to guilt.
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Like heterosexual men, gay partners typically value preserving emotional autonomy and independence over breaking down boundaries in pursuit of greater intimacy. Gay men, said Professor Umberson, are more “low-key” than women, offering emotional and instrumental care to a partner when it is clearly needed, instead of treating it as a routine obligation. And gay men tend not to expect such care unless they explicitly ask for it.

But perhaps because they don’t have a woman in the household keeping track of the emotional temperature, gay men are much more conscious than heterosexual men of monitoring their partner’s needs for emotional support so that they can provide support when it is really needed.

Megancita75 wrote: ↑Thu Feb 13, 2020 3:48 pm I read an article in the New York Times today that I found interesting and thought people in this forum might also find interesting:

How to Make Your Marriage Gayer: Same sex couples feel more satisfied with their partners than heterosexual ones. What's the secret?

Here are a few excerpts since it might be behind a paywall for some people:

Here’s where same-sex couples can offer their different-sex counterparts useful tips. Since same-sex couples can’t use imputed male-female differences to sort out who does what, they rely less on stereotypes. Heterosexual parents tend to see tasks such as child care, laundry and dishes as part of a package that is handed to one partner. Same-sex couples are far more likely to each take on some traditionally “feminine” and some “masculine” chores.

They are also more likely to share the routine tasks. A 2015 survey found that almost half of dual-earner, same-sex couples shared laundry duties, compared with just under a third of different-sex couples. And a whopping 74 percent of same-sex couples shared routine child care, compared with only 38 percent of straight couples.
...
They are also more likely to talk through their individual preferences about who does what at home. This is especially true for gay males and is probably why they express the most satisfaction with the division of labor.
...
Children living with same-sex parents experienced, on average, three and a half hours of parenting time per day, compared with two and a half for children living with a heterosexual couple.
...
A 12-year comparison of how couples initiate and handle disagreements identified other strengths of same-sex couples. The researchers John Gottman and Robert Levenson found that gays and lesbians who discussed a disagreement with their partner did so in less belligerent, domineering and fearful ways than different-sex individuals, possibly because they did not bring the same history of power inequalities to the table. Same-sex couples used more affection and humor while discussing their disagreements, became less agitated and calmed down more quickly afterward than different-sex couples.

Even in ordinary daily interactions, people in same-sex unions use more positive methods of influencing a partner, studies find, than individuals in different-sex partnerships, offering encouragement and praise rather than criticism, lectures or appeals to guilt.
...
Like heterosexual men, gay partners typically value preserving emotional autonomy and independence over breaking down boundaries in pursuit of greater intimacy. Gay men, said Professor Umberson, are more “low-key” than women, offering emotional and instrumental care to a partner when it is clearly needed, instead of treating it as a routine obligation. And gay men tend not to expect such care unless they explicitly ask for it.

But perhaps because they don’t have a woman in the household keeping track of the emotional temperature, gay men are much more conscious than heterosexual men of monitoring their partner’s needs for emotional support so that they can provide support when it is really needed.

There's even a graphic showing that the split in labor specifically for dishwashing can predict relationship quality: the more one person does the dishes, the less happy the relationship is

One distinctive strength of male couples is that their tendency to candidly discuss respective preferences extends to sexuality as well, including choices that may startle some heterosexuals. For example, while the extent of non-monogamy in gay-male partnerships is often exaggerated, openly non-monogamous relationships are more common than among lesbians or heterosexuals. Many gay couples work out detailed agreements about what kinds of sexual contact are permissible outside the relationship, under what circumstances and how often.

Notably, however, while the dating relationships of male couples are less stable than those of female-female or male-female couples, their formalized unions are as stable as those of heterosexuals and more stable than formalized female-female unions.

liola wrote: ↑Thu Feb 13, 2020 4:44 pm Where's the sad hetero gif that I need right now!!

flarequake wrote: ↑Thu Feb 13, 2020 9:25 pm I’m not entirely sure, but the Japhan umbrella photo was one. Then ‘the literal other half’.