The thing is, a silly fake marriage proposal or whatever would be funny and harmless with two people who don't have a huge, messy history between themselves, and the fans know that. Like, if it was Dan and... idk, Tyler? It'd be funny because we understand it's all free of complications and something to have a laugh at when they overact or act funny. But Dan and Phil have a really old, deeply rooted past with Phan™ and it clearly struck a nerve at some point in their life, which is why it's extra-sore when the fans poke at old wounds.kuensukki wrote:
I don't disagree that the "phan come out already" and vday screenshots are innapropiate! Those totally are. The silly challenges on the other hand seem harmless to me. If someone wants to joke about dan proposing to phil or vice versa and make it into a challenge they should be allowed. I agree that they're not our puppets to act out our phantasies etc. but given the past pinofs, they've been pretty complacent about acting things out which leave me with the impression that they don't care as much as we do. Even the tumblr tag, when someone sent a pic of them kissing they barely reacted so I bet they're used to it. At the end of the day, they have the power to choose what questions they want and don't want to use. They also edit so they'll get to choose how the video turns out, not the fans.
Like, I understand what you're saying. The boys are grown up and it's not 2012 anymore. I am confident they can handle it because it's not only fans that mock them, but their peers too, which is even worse tbh. But those questions
a) become a self-fulfilling prophecy for Dan's "is this what you fucking wanted" rants because, well... that's what fans harass them about, isn't it? He calls them out on their thirst and they don't even back down, they just double on the effort to get a reaction out of them, then they'll go around either feeling grossly proud of themselves or suddenly feel guilty once they get harassed by the Phan Police
b) have no usefulness whatsoever. They have the opportunity to ask something ridiculous or challenge them to something funny, and they waste their time typing out personal questions that they secretly hope will be the last drop spilling over the edge of the glass. All these fans are thinking to themselves "hah I'm so clever, I'll ask them about this, they are bound to react to it, right?" while having creepy fantasies about the idea that they actually might kiss or propose on camera. On a purely practical standpoint it's such a waste of effort and time to bother with asking these things, which makes me question the fans's mental horizon.
c) Honest to goodness those fans just want recognition if their fantasy becomes true. They'll retweet and reblog and make gifs and they'll feel like they are the ruler of the universe because they have this perverse obsession with getting deppy to act on what they say. So the shock value escalates with each passing hour because they are desperate to get some twisted 15 minutes of fame.
d) voyeurism
e) It makes us seem bad. Yeah, I know deppy are smarter than that and they understand that we don't all act that way, but just like Dan throws some salt around at criticism/behaviours he sees online from fans and we the forum members are like "eh??? where'd he see that?", he doesn't see a varied, complex spectrum of people that like his content. He sees a shapeless, faceless blob called "fans", on the internet, in thousands and millions, that all flood him with whatever comes out their arse head. It doesn't make me want to associate myself with the invisible label that is "Dan and Phil fan".
I've lost count here tbh I'm perfectly sure they'll just eyeroll and pick the questions that aren't weird, but the debate isn't about how they handle it, it's about how fans act, and that discussion could take hours, and a lot of alcohol in my case.