It happened a few years ago so even before all these 13 year olds with porn blogs popped up. It was between a 21 year old girl (well, woman) and a 15 (maybe 16) year old boy. They were both popular in the Tumblr phandom, but I don't think either are active anymore. I do remember some people thinking it was creepy and confronting her about it. Of course, their friends all thought they were sooo cute together. Her excuse was that she had more in common with 15 year olds anyway and other 'age is just a number' crap. It was implied they sexted. They broke up pretty quickly but it freaked me out pretty bad ._.jhamba wrote:The part about a 21 year old dating a 15 year old is the most disturbing part about what you have just described. I think adults should know better than to date children. I don't think that situation in question is a part of fandom culture, I think it's an adult using an alternative subculture to prey on their victims (this is very very common). I don't know how situations like that can be prevented. I think parenting your children well is the only way, but so many parents aren't equipped to teach their children things like this? This can go into a whole other essay, haha
I saw that fic (or 'headcanon') and I just closed the tab and had to take a walk outside to remind myself that the planet is still okay because nah. Like if that's your personal kink that's cool I guess but the way they described it was just abusive and weird. Even worse are the 2012!phan ones, where D&P literally abuse each other physically and verbally but it's all ok because sex. Often Dan cries at the end and apologizes for his behavior, then Phil apologizes for losing his temper and it's all happy again. That's not cute, that's dangerous... And I hope these kids don't think D&P are actually like that.jaej wrote:one i saw in particular had a lot of 'omg do a fic where phil makes fun of dan's small dick!!' which is just a bit... unusual when it's about 2 other people who you do not know and who probably wouldn't actually, like, approve of that.
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i think having a community giving teenagers a safe space to have teenage feelings and discuss sex is good, but those sites definitely arent the spaces for that. i mean, one i saw actually tried some kind of matchmaking service at one point. it had a list of people with their ages (some of them literally 13!!!!) listing if they were dom or sub and what their kinks were and a link to their ask box
I think the matchmaking thing was short lived and the blog admitted they shouldn't have done it, but the fact they even came up with it and didn't think about possible consequences proves to me they shouldn't own a blog like that at all.