Just to clarify, I wasn't judging you or anyone and I wasn't defending one side or the other when i said Dan and Phil's life is unique, everyone is free to compare it to their own life. It was just my observation that, when i've seen those comparisons to subjective experiences used as arguments, the discussion went nowhere because for every person who does things with their friends there is someone who doesn't.blackdenim wrote: ↑Sat Dec 23, 2017 4:38 pmThis is a great point and I agree, and I wasn't trying to use my own life to make an argument for D&P not being together, I was just providing an example/context to my point about confirmation bias.malday wrote: ↑Sat Dec 23, 2017 3:17 am And at this point arguments that involve comparing Dan and Phil's life to one's own life experience seem so repetitive and redundant to me because no one has lived Dan and Phil's unique life. Not to mention that one's experience is affected by your sexuality and how open you could live your life.
However I think it's interesting that (not just on here, in the Phandom as a whole) if someone says (for example) 'well me and my platonic best friend spend Christmas together and we're not a couple', people will rush over to say that D&P are totally individual and unique, and we shouldn't compare our own, real life relationships with them. But on the other hand, someone can say 'me and my partner have been together for 10 years and have never spent a Christmas together', and often the same people will use that as a way to point out that loads of couples don't spend Christmas together, so the fact that D&P don't, doesn't mean they're not in a relationship.
[edit] sorry for this ending up on top of the page.