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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by lefthandedism » Wed Oct 10, 2018 3:15 pm

Yes, it was definitely hot! And I so like description of real-life actual sex happening, with the fumbling around and misdirection and conversation. It's extra-special the first time, but really sex is like that most of the time, not something smooth and automatic.
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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by whatdoiknow » Thu Oct 11, 2018 2:19 am

I also loved the new chapter (and every chapter) of Teenagers, and I agree that the 'realistic' way the first time sex was written was so good.

Jumping on from a bit of discussion (asks) I've seen on tumblr, what is everyone's opinion on if they're moving too fast or at a normal rate? I find it interesting to hear people's experiences and perspectives on this.

I'll start off by saying basically that every experience is obviously different, and I think the pacing makes sense for these characters; but in that same vein, I could also see them waiting longer. I think as long as the writing makes sense and you are able to understand what the characters are thinking/feeling, then I can be convinced either way (which, in this case, it worked out well in the way it was written, i.e. moving fairly quickly from kissing to getting off in the latest chapter).

I do notice a pattern though, that in media, sex among teenagers (both the popularity of it and how fast couples move) tends to be different than the average of what I saw in real life as a teenager. This is just personal experience, but among the friends in different social circles, and with varying degrees of experience after high school (both from who I knew in high school, and from after high school), a very very low percentage did very much sexually in high school. I'm curious to know if this varies among regions, and if it was more common (and more similar to the media) in other people's experiences.

Anyways, this is going off on a tangent and sort of away from discussion of the actual fic (especially since in the fic, it was still pretty tame, i.e. clothes still on. I am curious to see how fast other things move though), but it's just something I was thinking about due to some of the other discussion I was seeing.

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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by pilotlight » Thu Oct 11, 2018 3:35 am

i don't think there really is a "normal" rate, which makes the conversation tricky. a lot of my peers were sexually active when we were in high school, but not so many that the ones who taked things slow (or abstained entirely) was weird or noteworthy. i do agree though that the media tends to portray the majority of teens as quickly or frequently getting into sexual relationships, which i don't think is the case.

anyway, reading the new chapter, their experience didn't strike me as unrealistic, as someone who was once a teenage boy lol

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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by Ataraxia25 » Thu Oct 11, 2018 7:18 am

i think they're going a natural pace, meaning that they both seem comfortable with it and i remember life as a teenager, everything is a bit more fast-paced than adult life so it doesn't strike me as odd. but your remark makes me think of something, when dan asks phil if something is wrong, i was almost convinced that yes, soemthing was gonna be wrong because it's so common in stories that teenage sex "have to go wrong" and i'd have been upset because what i love about this fic is how natural it seems for them.
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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by kavat » Thu Oct 11, 2018 7:51 am

This is a discussion that all boils down to personal experiences and references. To me it didn't seem to fast at all, sure they've just kissed and confessed their feelings for each other but there's been sexual tension between them for weeks. They didn't just meet and these feelings didn't come out of the blue, they've both had the chance to realize what they feel and what they want (side note, the moment when Phil realized the attraction was mutual was so sweet and lovely, bless these ladies for handling this story so well).

I myself didn't have any romantic or sexual experiences until I was 19 (and it would take me another 7 years to realize I was on the ace spectrum) but when it happened things went very fast. Most of my friends were sexually active during high school or even earlier, some with steady parters and some more casual. I see nothing unusual with how things are portrayed in Teenagers.
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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by whatdoiknow » Thu Oct 11, 2018 5:25 pm

Yeah it's definitely interesting how people's general experiences and references can be very different, but obviously that's the case with anything. To be clear, I'm not faulting mandy or sarah at all for their choice, especially since it wasn't really all that fast anyway. I just think the trend in media in general is interesting to look at.

More discussion specifically about the fic: other than the obvious (ie the interactions between dan and phil themselves), I think the thing I'm most looking forward to is the conversations around their sexuality and their relationship that will probably eventually happen with other characters, like dan's nan, his ex, phil's brother, etc. I'm really excited to see how all that is going to play out in the future

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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by kavat » Wed Oct 31, 2018 2:21 pm

Help I need a support group for the whirlwind that is Teenagers right now :dead:
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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by LadyLackless » Wed Oct 31, 2018 2:57 pm

kavat wrote:
Wed Oct 31, 2018 2:21 pm
Help I need a support group for the whirlwind that is Teenagers right now :dead:
IKR????? It’s so real. The characterisation is spot on, particularly for Dan. I’m eagerly awaiting Friday

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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by glitterintheair » Wed Oct 31, 2018 3:36 pm

The Teenagers chapter was just me screaming WHAT THE HELL DUDEEEEE every time Dan did something. And boi did he do more than Something. I need to recover because I'm emotionally exhausted.
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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by dc34 » Wed Oct 31, 2018 5:16 pm

LadyLackless wrote:
Wed Oct 31, 2018 2:57 pm
kavat wrote:
Wed Oct 31, 2018 2:21 pm
Help I need a support group for the whirlwind that is Teenagers right now :dead:
IKR????? It’s so real. The characterisation is spot on, particularly for Dan. I’m eagerly awaiting Friday
Yes, im always left so shook by how well it is. I feel like this is how dan would react irl if this happened to him.

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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by kavat » Mon Feb 04, 2019 4:14 pm

Waveydnp has a new brilliant wip going on so I'm kicking some life into this thread. After ch 4 I just want to give both of them a big hug. Or hug a cat.
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Re: Discussion of Fics We're Currently Loving

Post by somethingsketchy » Mon Feb 04, 2019 8:30 pm

kavat wrote:
Mon Feb 04, 2019 4:14 pm
Waveydnp has a new brilliant wip going on so I'm kicking some life into this thread. After ch 4 I just want to give both of them a big hug. Or hug a cat.
I'm so into this kind of good old friends-to-lovers action!
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