@KatjaZoe Once again i agree with most of what you say and thanks for putting it that eloquentlyAmiaw wrote: ↑Wed Mar 07, 2018 6:50 amI can't speak for anyone else but most of the time I like Dan. I understand he is going through depression and I feel for him, I enjoy his content, and when he isn't being patronizing I even like his live shows. I even left a comment on his last video that I thought it was brave of him to take baby steps.KatjaZoe wrote: ↑Wed Mar 07, 2018 6:35 am It feels like I say this any time after Dan posts any solo content at this point (which is really sad to me) -- but if Dan really makes some people in the phandom so angry, unhappy, etc. anytime he posts something, why do they still watch it? I'm not even trying to be sassy, like genuinely I don't understand why?
It's one thing to be frustrated with something, and even post about it -- I want to make it clear that I don't think people shouldn't be voicing an opinion -- but at this point it seems excessive. Just on here theres paragraphs upon paragraphs and pages upon pages of people just being negative (and not going to call anyone out but in some cases just downright hateful) towards Dan. I try to avoid twitter and tumblr phandom as much as possible, but i can only imagine its worse there. It's stessful to be in a community of fans that are being so extremely negative about the very person you're all supposed to be a fan of. AGAIN, not saying its bad to be critical of someone you're a fan of, but this is A LOT.
To quote SHITiveHITtheFANdom -- "perhaps cut the man some fucking slack?" I couldn't have said it any better myself. Is it disappoing? Yes. Did it feel like a backtrack? Yes. Does that mean we all need to get out our pitchforks and go after Dan? I don't think so. He's made it pretty clear he's been really struggling with depression lately, can you really blame him for having a reaction like that? I know from my experience, when i'm in a depressive episode, even just a small reaction from one person about something i've said can seem like a Big Deal -- imagine that times the 1.3mil views on his video (and counting). His statement about it wasn't mean or attacking, he even said he's "not trying to shame anyone." I understand being disappointed but I just don't understand the anger.
So my opinions and feelings aren't because I don't like Dan but because I do like him and expect him to respect his fanbase.
The thing with this video is that nobody knew what it was going to be. Dan made the decision to make this video and post it all on his own. Dan also made the decision to go to his live show audience, an audience that he knows is his most loyal, the people that draw art and buy his merch, the 2% that would have loved a side video talking about minced pies, the people that support him when he pulls a "Dan", and he was condescending and dismissive.
I'm disappointed because I thought we were mostly past this. I haven't been this put off since last year when he made it a point to mock his live show audience with the story of wearing Phil's jacket and again it was a story nobody asked for.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I hate that in one breath Dan tells a reporter that his audience is smart (when it comes to buying his board game and selling his merch anyway) but when it comes to understanding something in a video we all got it all wrong and couldn't be more off the mark. You know, maybe we were wrong. I'll give him the benefit of the doubt there because I'm not him and I don't know his thoughts, but would it have killed him to show us basic respect by waiting until his emotions died down and then explaining it in a logical way?
i disagree with one thing though - exactly what position is he backtracking from? As I see it, a lot of people made something of that dick joke that it simply wasn't. Some people wanted to see it as "growth", more "openness", as a profound statement about his sexual identity. What Dan says in the liveshow conflicts with that. And i think that's why some people feel so disappointed and there is so much talk about it. To be clear: people have the right to feel however they want about this, but i'm just going to honestly state my view too here.
I think this has at least as much to do about the expectations and assumptions that people construed in the fandom than with anything Dan did himself.
Do I believe he didn't caught the innuendo? Could be, but ehh i judge it's unlikely. I think he sorely misjudged the impact it had and the significance people would attach to it. Which took me by surprise too.
As he went on to explain in the liveshow, he clearly feels like he always needs to bring a balance of being informative and being entertaining. With Dan and Phil, being entertaining very often comes down to making a whole lot of erotic innuendo So that's how i perceived the joke when I watched the video. As a bit of silly gay joke (one in a loooong line) that got blown out of proportion (pun not intended) by parts of the fandom. I'm not targeting anyone on this forum (at least here we're trying to have a mature exchange of views) but just reacting to everything I've seen and read online.
The way people took that oral sex reference as an important message of the video rather than what I see was the message and which I understand Dan also saw as the real message, did bother me if i'm honest. I see a youtuber who's very private in general opening up about his depression, in his typical fashion which includes making sex jokes. That sex joke and some other details like the magnets run away with a lot of the attention. Some people are very much focused on their sexuality and the nature of their relationship. For this video i just don't think those were that relevant for what he was trying to say. So it saddens me that a lot of the talk about it does end up about that anyway. I feel that is what Dan was trying to react to, and any backtracking I see as an effort to reclaim the authentic message of the video. It's only 'bactracking' if you held the position that he had said something profound about his sexual identity. He didn't, and I think he wanted to show that and that's why he talked about it and even showed a clip of the previous version where he said ass. None of this really is a "no homo" to me and I think Dan is just as "bi" or "no label" or whatever he wants to be as he was before....
Could he have communicated this with more tact or should he have never made a dick joke if he didn't want people to react this way? I agree partly, but I also think it's good to reflect on our own assumptions about who we think they are as people and what we want of them. They don't conform to everything all people think them to be (cfr the people who really want him to have a 'pastel' personality or to be only ever be positive all the time). So paradoxically, I think in this liveshow he was just being more his 'true" self rather than the brand. And this to me show me again why it's not always the case that being truthful with your audience is good for you. Because I feel like he sure takes a lot of flack for simply conflicting things other people took out of it but which he didn't intend to say.
btw @papierklemmen I couldn't tell you what meme that is. Ironically it sounds a lot gayer to me than what ended up in the final video . "Hey sexy, do you know about the ass eating meme?" That's one dank meme swamp he travels in