Secretstanner wrote: ↑Thu Oct 08, 2020 8:02 pm
Secretstanner wrote: ↑Thu Oct 08, 2020 6:17 pm
I’m in a constant tailspin with dan. The things he chooses to do I’m always like, wait really...sure okay? Im still holding on to my candle haul but sure have fun telling us how to get off social media for a couple minutes.
I’m just going to say this because I know people can be passive aggressive in this phandom without actually talking about things. Like others have said, it’s ironic he just did that video about social when the last two days I literally have been glued to my phone because of dan. I don’t have to love everything Dan does, I don’t actually think dan will go back to being a YouTuber I’m joking about the candle haul?? “If you don’t like it don’t watch, unfollow” Why? Why do I have to do this? Why can’t I follow dan and know what I will and won’t enjoy? And have opinions about it. I don’t blindly follow and love everything either of them do, doesn’t make me less of a fan of them. And this response is to people that read here but post other places. Once again gotta love the passive aggression. Never change phandom!
In conclusion. Love this beautiful man. Peace out
It's interesting. I think 'If you don't like, don't watch, unfollow' can be kind of a simplification of what is a really important reminder that you don't have to be right there for everything, involved in everything, follow people forever, etc. I remember being on tumblr and stuff (and even now I think it is still somewhat of a thing) and unfollowing people was like a
big deal. Like when you followed someone it was a personal commitment to follow them for the rest of time or something. With 'if you don't like, don't watch, unfollow' I think maybe a more fleshed out way to explain it is don't hold onto/keep following/watching people when you're not really enjoying their content in general anymore. If someone posts one or two things that I'm not that into, fine, but if we start parting directions more generally, maybe it's time to move on and that's okay. It's also very individual based on you and your reasons for following someone.
I refer to it as like 'marie kondo-ing' my follower list, where every month or two I go through my follower list on insta and basically ask myself 'does following this person spark joy, do I like seeing this person and their posts come up on my feed?' and if the answer is no I ask the follow up question of 'am I following this person to learn from them? is the stress and discomfort associated with learning from them and growing something I can handle right now?' If I am not experiencing joy or learning from the account, I unfollow. Doing this periodically over time keeps my social media more curated to what I want and what I have energy for. It has been really, really helpful for me.
Sidenote: also lovely to see people like Jessica, Amp and Chandler in this project as well!