I have to say, while I have personal issues with criticism and negativity that can cause me to feel down, I really, really appreciate all this discussion and think there's so many different and important points that have been made by everyone.
I agree that listening to experts and seeking professional advice is an important thing to mention and encourage, however I'm also totally in agreement that having access to that, especially as an LGBTQ+ person is a privilege and not something everyone can do. And, even among professionals, experiences are a mixed bag. While I have had great therapists, etc. in my life that have helped save my life, the words of a mental health professional highly revered in my area as well as my experience being taken to the hospital for depression have been some of the most harmful and traumatizing experiences of my life.
How to give advice and try to help people in this area is a murky grey zone to navigate, and I definitely think there are ways to go about it that would easily cross lines. Dan knows he has an audience that he is very influential to and that go through a lot of different things, it is clear that he is actively aware of the challenges of what he is doing. Personally, I don't think my feelings on this will ever be entirely one way or the other, I absolutely anticipate having my gripes with certain things while enjoying and really appreciating others.
As I said a while ago I think the tone of how the book actually goes about it will make a lot of difference. And regardless of how much input or not Dan had over the blurb, I regard anything related to trying to market something with many grains of salt. Also, I think the 'might' in 'might change your life' is key. There's a difference between providing suggestions and explanations of what have been personally helpful to oneself and others that you could try to see if they are helpful to you versus telling someone to do something and that it absolutely will help them or is the right thing for them. With as little as we know, I feel like both are on the table and again it comes to waiting and seeing on how the tone turns out.
Personally, I'm not expecting to get tons from the skills/tools/advice/whatever you want to call it part of the book. After being in many different kinds of therapy over the last 7 (?? really that many, jesus) years including CBT, 2 types of DBT, one-on-one and group therapy there's not many basic skills/tools/ideas I haven't come across. I do always appreciate new perspectives though, and as I relate very closely to some of the aspects of mental health that Dan has talked about in regards to himself, I am looking forward to read more of his thoughts and experiences.
Nice on Dan from a career perspective that the amazon pre-order has done so well and he's high up or topping (
) in several categories. I was thankful to have the option to order through Dan's shop site mostly because I hate amazon with a burning passion for many reasons and avoid spending money through them whenever possible, but I also understand that, without being signed, and probably being available through prime, going through amazon makes it cheaper enough that it can be a bit more accessible to more people. While the signature is more of a bonus to me since I would spend the extra money to spitefully avoid amazon anyway, I do low-key look forward to adding it to my small collection of signed books from queer and trans authors that mean a lot to me. I may be a little thing, but it's something that's very precious and personal to me. While I love the cover design of the book, I think I will probably end up recycling the bookmark 'cause it's pretty bland and I won't ever use it.
Re: Phil, I am also curious and excited for what he has in store, as I'm sure there are things! Just like Dan hinted at this not being the only thing he has in the works right now, I think we should know better than to think either of them are ever not working on anything. They've always both had ideas brewing and different projects at different levels going on. While stressful, and I'm sure somewhat complicated to manage, it serves them well and has also been a way for them to not 'put all their eggs in one basket' project wise, which when you have a creative career, is important imo. Theme of the week, but I guess we'll have to wait and see. I do anticipate we will get a Dan book shoutout of some kind in Phil's next video though, king of spon is usually also happy to spon his life companion.
Oh, and on professional jealousy, I completely agree with Dizzy, with their careers being way more similar, and also comparable through numbers, before than now I can't really see them harboring much jealousy. If they ever had issues with that it's something they would've had to have worked through a long time ago to get to where they are now. While they've seemed to get jealous sometimes over other people being more attentive/flirty to one of them when they're in the same video, I've never gotten anything but supportive vibes from them towards eachother, especially around projects.
What Dan said about being a thicc block of text kind of guy? I'm feeling very called out by that right now, jeez.