Morganaa wrote: ↑Wed May 18, 2022 2:52 am
[...]when that person constantly needs to remind EVERYONE they were strugglin with mental health and also has to keep repeating EVERY. SNGLE. TIME. that they're gay, makin it some sort of huge accomplishment (while aso sayin that was a major source of these problem - to the point I feel like he's just searchin for attention and hundreds of post strokin his ego so he can feel better... sometimes I think some gays think they're better than everyone else coz they're gay, like it really mattered that much).
can't speak for all The Gays™, but I
absolutely think I'm better than everyone else bc of my incredible lesbian-ness. my personal history dealing with emotionally tramatic and physically violent homophobia makes me cool and sexy.
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In realness tho, the whole *talking about mental health stuff is only for attention* thing
is damaging. The community I was raised in views things like therapy, psychiatry, and mental health struggles in general as very taboo, something only weak people struggle with, that it's not something "good" people or "normal" people have.
it's what caused me to not seek help when I entered my first bipolar/manic episode despite being lucid enough at the beginning to know something was feeling wrong. it took until a series of events when I started hearing voices for people in my life to realize this wasn't something that'd go away if I powered through, but by then it was too late, and I got stuck with a 5150 after narrowly cheating death.
normalize talking about mental health will save lives. dan sharing what he did will make people who feel stuck in similar mental spaces feel less alone, be more likely to seek help and talk to loved ones about it, and see that there's a chance things might be brighter
I understand you feel like no one cared about your struggles so you don't have a reason to care about others. I'm so sorry the people in your life failed you and made you feel isolated.
I feel for you, sometimes I get like that too, feel so angry about how unfair the world is. But me personally, I can't allow myself to stay in that anger too long or else I spiral into an awful, isolated mess. Humans are a communal people, we have empathy, it's natural to see someone struggling and feel for them, even when we've faced something objectively worse than they have.
That's what most people on idb are doing. we've all got one thing in commone--an interest in D&P--so we see Dan talk about his mental health and we relate it to our own experiences, realize he went through a very awful thing, and hope he's headed towards a better place because it doesn't matter if he has an easier time than us, no one deserves to suffer and I, personally, don't like to see people suffer, especially people like dan who has always proven himself to be, despite his faults, a kind person.
it's not that you have an unpopular opinion or that people here don't like to see dissenting opinions... on the contrary, idb has a great track record of... let's call it spirited debate
it's that from your posts, it feels like you're dismissive of his mental health, and you're very much downplaying the pain he carries from years of tramatic, violent homophobia. It feels like you're saying Dan should keep his struggles to himself, that people have it worse so he shouldn't expect people to care, that he's overreacting and by posting his video he's showing an inflated sense of ego, and that by sharing his
objectively shitty experience he's simply seeking attention. maybe you don't mean to say all that, but that's how your posts come across and it's very understandable for ppl to bristle.
I'll admit, unless he's holding out on something big I'd probably beat Dan in the trauma olympics, but I still feel sympathetic because I don't like seeing people hurt. plus I've been a fan of dan for a long time, am invested in him as a person, and it sucks to see someone you feel connected to (even if just as a fan) be in pain.
They sure do have some houseplants. Lots of them. Maybe Dan will do a houseplant tour soon! We had Phil's from a while back, it's Dan's turn to show off those babies they've worked so hard to keep alive.
have there been any other cringey tour posters that were made by the venue's!
