I'm not putting this in off-topic or the other YTers thread because... awkward... I know all fandoms have some aspect of this intrusiveness when it comes to the lives of the people they gather around (ok, maybe not all), but who specifically could he be talking about? What brought this up in his mind and bothered him enough to put it on tumblr? I don't think he could be talking about himself because, for anybody who doesn't follow him, he's fairly open about his sexuality ("straight, but open") and the possibility of him being into guys. He's also quite open about how single he is.
He also posted this:
So maybe he was just focusing on one aspect of a larger rumination on fandom culture in general. I'm not really involved in other 'fandoms' to this extent, though I'm aware of the shipping of some musicians, and Drew is into music, so maybe that's what he's thinking of... But really?? With all the Dan/Phil avatars in his Twitter replies (and literally everywhere else on the internet) I can only connect the dots back to them.
Anyway, about his point. I can't disagree with it. Outing people is awful, that goes without saying, or it should. I guess we like to think it's a fine line between
outing and simply
satisfying our own harmless (
to us)
curiosity. We're not hounding them, we're not @ing them (well,
some of us aren't
) with dumb intrusive shit. We think it's all totally fine because we keep the info amongst ourselves as if all of these discussions don't happen in completely public and accessible spaces online where anybody, including them, can see. And it's a joke anyway! We're joking, we love them and support them, so it's all fine anyway, right? Everything is fine because it comes from a good place, right? I'm part of the problem, and it's a weird place to be, I can't even justify it. '
Waah I wanna know!' just isn't good enough.
Anyway, shout out to Drew for my minor breakdown this lovely AM. Yay.
(edit -
Drew Monson's tumblr for people who don't even know who the hell I'm talking about lol whoops)