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adequack wrote:I love how people point stuff out like that, I mean I get annoyed enough every time I go to a different hairdresser and they comment about how much hair I have, which is a very specialised situation, not like being tall in public.
This always happens to me too! And I never know how to react, as it seems to be in a very vague position between compliment and insult.
Waist length thiiiiick curly hair. Yuuuuuuup, I feel your pain. Used to get so fed up with trying to warn salons of that when making an appointment, then watching the hairdresser panic when I got there...! Luckily my cousin is a hairdresser/hairdressing tutor&assessor in a college these days, so she uses me as a Guinea pig/model for long styles etc, and I get a free haircut out of it. Everyone's a winner!
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The best horror striken face i've ever gotten was when i made an appointment for a fancy hairdo and makeup for my hs graduation and the hairdresser realized they would probably spend all day straightening mid back lenght curly hair (but not thick, just voluminous, also now it reaches my butt mwahaha image if it had been like this back then). It's actually quite easy to straighten because it's no actually that much hair and it just needs a LOT of heat.

The worst is that almost nobody (in my whereabouts anyway) knows how to cut curly hair, they never ever account for shrinkage and cut it while wet :tsk:
SquishPhan wrote:I'm 168 cm, which is 5'6. My shoe size is EU39/UK5/US7
I would say that I’m average height wise, especially for females in the Netherlands.
SAME height/shoe size!
i am also national average height... for males. the female average is something like 1.5m. we're all munchkins basically :cry: i feel very self conscious when in public transport when i could easily accidentally elbow most women in the neck.

my last bf was very tall (i'd say Dan sized) and it was nice but he got to see all my roots and grey hairs from that vantage point :lol: i wouldn't be opposed to date people shorter than me just as long as they're not insecure messes about it whenever i wear platforms/heels etc
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I've had grey hairs since I was 12. Life ain't fair, but luckily hair dye isn't that expensive! (since it takes 2 boxes to barely cover my hair, three to be on the safe side!)
I've had up to three people simultaneously blowdrying my hair straight in salons. Always entertaining! The only time i've had it "short" (and that to me is boobs-length!) is when I've been pincurling it to fit under wigs. And that suuuuuuuucks! :(

I have a close male friend (actually platonic. we could teach :d&p: a few things!!) who is a couple years older than me, but a few inches shorter. Got drunk one evening when we were both single at the same time and he broached the subject of "why do you think we never got together properly" I think he regretted it when I giggled, said I loved him to bits and he's great, but he's just too damn short for me. I'm evil. I know.
Having a partner who is only a couple of inches taller than me is a great excuse NOT to wear heels! I loooooooove it! Pretty flat/low heeled sandals that have straps so they don't fall off my feet as I walk! :D It does help that most of our mutual friends are all much shorter than I am, so even if they're wearing heels I'm still taller!
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timtam wrote: Worst thing was it always came from people who were quite short. I'd never point out to someone who is short that they are really short. I guess that has something to do with being tall being more attractive than being short I don't know because I'm not sure that's true.
When I was at uni I dated this guy who was 6'7". When we were talking one day he mentioned that one of the things that initially attracted him to me was how I didn't go "Wow you're tall do you play basketball?" as the first thing I said to him.

And Mint Slices are by far the superior chocolate biscuit! Here in the US people go crazy about Girl Scout Cookies' Thin Mints and I just shake my head at them pityingly.
Ha I can see why he would have appreciated that!

I've never had a Thin Mint but Mint Slices are so good I don't think any mint biscuit could beat it!
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I've got very little hair and it's really thin so I have no choice but to always get a really short haircut (up to my chin). Hate it, it's one of my main insecurities. So when I'm reading about all of you having thick hair I get so freakin jealous. It's unreasonable because obviously every type of hair comes with its own problems but I can't help it. :lol:

timtam wrote: I used to be very very skinny when I was younger. People, adults actually, used to point it out all the time. Telling me to eat hot dogs etc. I even had a doctor question why i was so skinny, There was nothing wrong with me. I just tended to snack a lot, I did a huge amount of sport as a child and was tall so the weight distributed upward. It made me so embarrassed about my body. It really screwed my confidence and self esteem when I started putting on a bit of weight in my late teens because even though I was like 'yes i might not be so ridiculously skinny now' it was a weird feeling.
It's interesting what people are willing to tell the others isn't it? Hardly anybody would come up to a person and tell them that they're too fat, but there are quite a lot of people who have no problem with telling others that they're too thin, when it's basically equally problematic. One of my best friends is very skinny. She doesn't eat a lot but I'm pretty sure she doesn't have some kind of eating disorder, it's just the way her body is. Over the years (I've known her for 6 years) I witnessed countless people telling her that she's too skinny. Hell, I was one of those people. I tried to do it very rarely, but I did say these things nevertheless, simply out of worry. Recently she explained to me and to a couple of other friends how exactly it made her feel. Long story short, it made her feel like shit. So although sometimes I still get slightly worried about her, I now actively avoid these kinds of remarks and try to approach the subject with more understanding. Reading your story reminded me about my friend and my mistakes but at least me and her are adults. I feel really sorry that you had to go through this in your childhood/teenage years, that must've doubled the pressure :(
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I used to do hairmasks, footbaths and other grooming activities (like painting my nails) when there was a live show...

... i really do miss them... and so do my toes.

But who the fuck am I kidding? I'm mostly just the rotting banana peel at the bottom of the phan trash can who genuinely gets excited over the thought of them snuggling in bed. Idgaf let a bitch live
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hunnyftw wrote:I've got very little hair and it's really thin so I have no choice but to always get a really short haircut (up to my chin). Hate it, it's one of my main insecurities. So when I'm reading about all of you having thick hair I get so freakin jealous. It's unreasonable because obviously every type of hair comes with its own problems but I can't help it. :lol:

timtam wrote: I used to be very very skinny when I was younger. People, adults actually, used to point it out all the time. Telling me to eat hot dogs etc. I even had a doctor question why i was so skinny, There was nothing wrong with me. I just tended to snack a lot, I did a huge amount of sport as a child and was tall so the weight distributed upward. It made me so embarrassed about my body. It really screwed my confidence and self esteem when I started putting on a bit of weight in my late teens because even though I was like 'yes i might not be so ridiculously skinny now' it was a weird feeling.
It's interesting what people are willing to tell the others isn't it? Hardly anybody would come up to a person and tell them that they're too fat, but there are quite a lot of people who have no problem with telling others that they're too thin, when it's basically equally problematic. One of my best friends is very skinny. She doesn't eat a lot but I'm pretty sure she doesn't have some kind of eating disorder, it's just the way her body is. Over the years (I've known her for 6 years) I witnessed countless people telling her that she's too skinny. Hell, I was one of those people. I tried to do it very rarely, but I did say these things nevertheless, simply out of worry. Recently she explained to me and to a couple of other friends how exactly it made her feel. Long story short, it made her feel like shit. So although sometimes I still get slightly worried about her, I now actively avoid these kinds of remarks and try to approach the subject with more understanding. Reading your story reminded me about my friend and my mistakes but at least me and her are adults. I feel really sorry that you had to go through this in your childhood/teenage years, that must've doubled the pressure :(
I think it is a difficult subject because I understand that when it is friends/family and that you get worried, it is a good thing to address it and check if everything is ok. Of course it can be annoying for the person who is considered too thin but I get where people are coming from.
The problem really comes when people that have no business pointing it out do, or otherwise when people keep and keep mentioning it.
I used to have some weight/eating problems a few years ago and I was quite thin and let me tell you that those people who kept telling me that i was thin didn't help. I actually had the opposite reaction in kind of defiantly not eating in front of them and skipping meals at school cafeteria, just to piss them off. And I knew it was bad and stupid but it was my form of rebellious response.
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Omg, you rebel you! I hope your weight/eating problems are well in the past now, together with constant nagging about it from other people And again, you reinforced my decision to be more careful and considerate when I'm worrying about my family and friends and have an impulse to express all of it. It will be hard because worrying is what I do best in life, so wish me luck ;)
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I think nagging someone about their weight is soooo inappropriate. As I am short and chubby - in a way that I'm not that much overweight but just soft and squishy and little bit padded because I don't do any exercise and I also gained all this chubb since last summer, I get my family always reminding me everytime I eat something other than vegetables (as I don't eat meat). Especially my brother - he can't say one sentence to me without acknowledging that I'm chubby or trying to force me some meat. I mean, as little sister I'm used to him being a twat to me, but jesus, this is slowly getting into my head. He looks like a skeleton himslelf. One would say that at 23 he would know better.
Living with someone like that, I'd never comment on someone's weight, no matter if we are talking being thin or thick.
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My hair is not very thick, but very much straight like ruler. Unless I sleep with wet hair or something, it just looks like if I used straighteners. And if I try to use heat to curl it, it goes down in matter of minutes and looks like I never did anything with it. Sigh. And I always wanted to have hair like Merida (even though I didn't know her when I was a kid because it wasn't made yet)
At least it didn't take very long for it to hang below my bum.
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Inspired by the "I met bae in the AmazingPhil comment section" stories, let me ask those of you with SOs - how did you meet? And how long have you been together? :)

Curious because my luck in that regard has been the absolute worst.
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loststars wrote:Inspired by the "I met bae in the AmazingPhil comment section" stories, let me ask those of you with SOs - how did you meet? And how long have you been together? :)

Curious because my luck in that regard has been the absolute worst.
Met at a fitness event in Dublin, how we ended up together after a catalogue of comedic errors that weekend I have absolutely no idea, but obviously it's working as we've been together for just over two years. (Two and a half according to him, he counts it from when we first met, I count it from when he came to visit me for the first time AFTER we first met.)
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hunnyftw wrote:Omg, you rebel you! I hope your weight/eating problems are well in the past now, together with constant nagging about it from other people And again, you reinforced my decision to be more careful and considerate when I'm worrying about my family and friends and have an impulse to express all of it. It will be hard because worrying is what I do best in life, so wish me luck ;)
yes I am doing much better thank you
good luck with not worrying too much you good egg.
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loststars wrote:Inspired by the "I met bae in the AmazingPhil comment section" stories, let me ask those of you with SOs - how did you meet? And how long have you been together? :)

Curious because my luck in that regard has been the absolute worst.
The most boring way ever. Through a mutual friend at University. And we've been together 18 years now. OMG, now I really feel old ;)
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So peeps, Eurovision chat (as discussed in the Music thread)

I myself am not going to watch the semi-finals probably, and so I'll have to ask you, If you want the chat only for the finals or for the semi-finals aswell?

I'll figure out tonight, what will be the easiest chatroom to use, that can be locked from random people. (probably just IRC but not 100% sure there, will get to you)

:gg:

But who the fuck am I kidding? I'm mostly just the rotting banana peel at the bottom of the phan trash can who genuinely gets excited over the thought of them snuggling in bed. Idgaf let a bitch live
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Anonymousse wrote:So peeps, Eurovision chat (as discussed in the Music thread)

I myself am not going to watch the semi-finals probably, and so I'll have to ask you, If you want the chat only for the finals or for the semi-finals aswell?

I'll figure out tonight, what will be the easiest chatroom to use, that can be locked from random people. (probably just IRC but not 100% sure there, will get to you)

:gg:
I definitely want to do the finals as that's the big one, I have literally no knowledge about chatrooms but that would definitely be easier than just a thread on here if everyone's essentially liveblogging :D
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adequack wrote:
loststars wrote:Inspired by the "I met bae in the AmazingPhil comment section" stories, let me ask those of you with SOs - how did you meet? And how long have you been together? :)

Curious because my luck in that regard has been the absolute worst.
The most boring way ever. Through a mutual friend at University. And we've been together 18 years now. OMG, now I really feel old ;)
That's sweet though. :) I have a very pessimistic view of romantic relationships, so I always like hearing about other people's long-term relationships that have worked out. I've also had pretty bad luck in the past, mostly due to fear of commitment and utter confusion about my sexuality (tbh I still don't have my sexuality really pinned down completely, but I've stopped caring at this point. People are attractive. )
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Most of my male cousins are giants though, even my brother is really tall which is why I don't think that are all that tall. Having been surrounded by tall people my who life, their height isn’t really impressive to me.

This is so true. I was initially surprised when people went on about being so tall because as a Dutch person I was like, ''Isn't 6'2 a perfectly normal height for a guy?'' My family is full of tall people that make fun of me for being ''short,'' even though I'm 1.70 (5'6) which is a fairly average height for a woman anywhere else in the world.
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Theoretically I have a chatroom...

... But I can't hide my location in it, argh.

:sideeye:

Just tell me if you want to have fun with it today too or not? I'm prepared for Sunday but I can totes just afk while you have fun .

But who the fuck am I kidding? I'm mostly just the rotting banana peel at the bottom of the phan trash can who genuinely gets excited over the thought of them snuggling in bed. Idgaf let a bitch live
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Totally just stalked this whole thread now going to post

You all are very tall people in here. I am 5"2 and i don't think I have grown for years.
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loststars wrote:Inspired by the "I met bae in the AmazingPhil comment section" stories, let me ask those of you with SOs - how did you meet? And how long have you been together? :)

Curious because my luck in that regard has been the absolute worst.
The most boring way ever. Through a mutual friend at University. And we've been together 18 years now. OMG, now I really feel old ;)
That's sweet though. :) I have a very pessimistic view of romantic relationships, so I always like hearing about other people's long-term relationships that have worked out. I've also had pretty bad luck in the past, mostly due to fear of commitment and utter confusion about my sexuality (tbh I still don't have my sexuality really pinned down completely, but I've stopped caring at this point. People are attractive. )
Me and my ex were together for seven years and broke up last year... so now I am pretty pessimistic about relationship too. (Even though in hindsight it was a terrible relationship and was the reason I have Low Self-esteem issues and social anxiety..)
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Anonymousse wrote:So peeps, Eurovision chat (as discussed in the Music thread)

I myself am not going to watch the semi-finals probably, and so I'll have to ask you, If you want the chat only for the finals or for the semi-finals aswell?

I'll figure out tonight, what will be the easiest chatroom to use, that can be locked from random people. (probably just IRC but not 100% sure there, will get to you)

:gg:
I definitely want to do the finals as that's the big one, I have literally no knowledge about chatrooms but that would definitely be easier than just a thread on here if everyone's essentially liveblogging :D
Totally up for a chatroom on Saturday, don't know if I am going to watch the semi's yet. I think I want to be surprised for Saturday night.
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bedhead91 wrote:I've also had pretty bad luck in the past, mostly due to fear of commitment and utter confusion about my sexuality (tbh I still don't have my sexuality really pinned down completely, but I've stopped caring at this point. People are attractive. )
LOL, well I am in my 40s and still haven't gotten my gender/sexuality worked out completely (although really for me it's mostly theoretical at this point) so ... (I'm not sure where I was going with this sentence, probably somewhere supportive though)

All my successful dating relationships (where we ended up friends afterwards) started out as friends first. I could totally have sex with someone I wasn't friends with, but I don't know if I could date them.

After 18 years with the husband the honeymoon period is definitely over, but we are still each others best friends and biggest fans and he still makes me laugh, and he accepts my weirdness and I accept his workaholicism. So yes 10/10 highly recommend dating a friend.
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We met through a mutual friend. Dated for 4 years, engaged for the past year. I'm thinking about calling off the engagement.
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Lucet wrote:We met through a mutual friend. Dated for 4 years, engaged for the past year. I'm thinking about calling off the engagement.
Why are you thinking about calling it off? If you feel uncomfortable you don't have to share.
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i'm 1,70 (so 5'7"?) and i'm always so confused about imperial system, so i always thought from people's reactions that d&p are super tall but actually if they are around 6'2" that's like 1,88 and it's about the average of my male friends (and guys i've dated are usually either a bit taller than me or like freaking 2 meters (6'5")) everywhere i've lived i'm usually either taller than average or kinda average for girls so i feel normal around guys who are 6"2' but feel slightly intimidated by girls taller than 5'10" (which is why i tend to date girls my height or shorter than me)
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Lucet wrote:We met through a mutual friend. Dated for 4 years, engaged for the past year. I'm thinking about calling off the engagement.
Why are you thinking about calling it off? If you feel uncomfortable you don't have to share.
ouh if you wanna share Lucet that sounds like something i wanna hear more about cuz i'm curious and nosey like that! (but feel free to totally ignore me cuz it's not really my place)
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Oh no, I'm more than willing to share (hooray for anonymity and not many people know I like ), I just don't really have time to write huge posts, I'll try to summarise it.

Two things - jealousy and laziness. No idea what is worse, well probably jealousy because it kinda tries to take away my freedom (even though I'm not letting him do that).
He's jealous because of me, he's jealous because I have a number of male friends, he doesn't care - gay, married, single, alien, underage, elderly or my cousin/uncle. If you have a penis, then you will definitely want to fuck me :lol: . At first I found it hilarious, but now I'm getting frustrated (and if you're interested I'm definitely not a "omg she's soooo gorgeous" type of girl). I'm good looking, but that's pretty much it. Sex appeal has never been my "go to" thing and I'm content with that, but he just doesn't get it. Like, he got jealous because my uni classmate messaged me on facebook asking me how I'm doing and we chatted for a few hours. I was into that guy back in my college days, and I told my fiance about this (I mean lol, "college crush"). He remembered it and got jealous aka "so this is the reason you want to move to UK". I mean, ridiculous. I haven't even seen the guy since our graduation.
Lazy and envious. We work in similar fields, different companies. He's lazy and he's not growing professionally. I already earn more than him and I get invitations to move, there are great career opportunities outside of the country I'm residing in. I really want to move, because why the heck not, I'm not even 25 yet. He's envious because he's not getting that, but he also doesn't want to do shit. If he would apply to a job overseas, I guess he would get it without a problem, in any country. He's fluent in 3 languages after all. At home - same shit. I take care of my apartment and I cook because I don't want to eat shitty take aways every single evening. I'm not asking him much, just do the laundry, or peel the friggin potatoes once in a while, but naaaah. The baby is tired. I'm tired as well, I'm usually at work from 8am to 6pm plus my chores at home.
I already told him I'm not sure about the engagement and marriage and he started rambling about how we will get married, have children soon (he really wants kids), buy a house outside the city (I'm dreading that, because I'm a city girl and also - he's lazy. I can take care of the apartment myself, but if it's going to be a 200+sq^m house plus garden then it's a living hell) and live happily ever after.

He's not a bad guy, we have a lot of fun together, but I want my freedom and I want a career and be successful. Maybe I'm a bitch, I'm not sure.

Sorry for a lot of rambling, it's nearly morning and I drank a litre of cider (yay Eurovision) and my mind is all over the place, but it's kinda good to get it off my chest.
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Mmm..that sounds complicated and emotionally tiring, but it looks like you've already made a decision :platonic:

I was in a toxic relationship just like you described yours, and I finally got fed up and dumped his sorry ass, although until I mustered the courage, he had already coerced me into not accepting an overseas position. He was a good person, but at the end of the day, a partner has to support you and motivate you to become a better person, not exclusively his / her personal cheerleader.
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