fancybum wrote:I mean, melon lord, all of that kind of has the assumption that they need to come out at some point (or "come clean" about their personal lives). They don't. If they want to, that's cool, but choosing not to doesn't need to have anything to do with updated potential fan reactions as your post kind of assumes. I don't really see how the level of likely (assumed) acceptance by the majority of their fans have anything to do with anything. They're not living their lives for us and looking at their actions, or expectations of their actions, with regards to their private lives through the lens of how we'd react is a strange approach. idk. I don't think they're trying to 'hide' so much anymore, but just because their history is on display for anyone to see (and come to whatever conclusion that history leads a viewer to), that's not a reason to make anything official unless they want to. "Who do they think they're kidding at this point, might as well come out" doesn't sit right with me, especially since they're not really (imo) trying to kid anybody these days. So why do they need to confirm explicitly if, for whatever reasons, they don't feel like it. The 'best time' for them to do anything of the sort is exactly when it occurs to them they want to.
I maybe didn't word myself right then, cause that wasn't my intended point
I didn't say anywhere that they
should say anything at all about their relationship. I don't know where you got that assumption from. It's been a common argument lately that people are forcing, subconsciously or not, a reveal of their personal life, when my post had nothing of the sort. I don't expect them to or demand it from them, personally.
I'm commenting on a shift in the attitude and behaviour of the fans through the years, which is only my personal observation and I don't have graphs or statistics to back it up. I'm saying
if they did, now as opposed to back then would be much more accepting, and again,
this is just my opinion. For the reasons I stated: normalisation of their symbiosis and relationship, whatever that is.
They could hide "the truth" until they are old and grey and we all have dementia and have forgotten why we were on this forum in the first place. They could hire a blimp tomorrow and have a giant PHAN IS REAL banner tied on it, flying over London. My point was about the fans' perspective and the way the fans act, regardless of reality, which we just don't know. We can make a lot of assumptions, connect a lot of dots, but that's about it, I'm afraid.
Now see, this is part of why I have distaste over posting my thoughts here. I said "best time" in the beginning of my post and then went on to explain my thought process and nowhere did I imply that I am holding a knife over anyone's throat, metaphorically. It could be that my thought process is shit and that's up for debate, but I did not imply anywhere that I have marked a date on my giant phan calendar and if they don't confess by then so help me.
I wanted a discussion on the fandom. On how it was back then and how it is now and the changes and developments. I wanted a chat about how actually BELIEVING in Phan (not just casually shipping cause you think it's kawaii) was more of a dark niche in the phandom as opposed to now where it's a gigantic beacon shining brightly. I thought about how fans coming in different years would have a different opinion/attitude about Phan and how those nuances would change. I considered the possibility that now is a more accepting and calm era of being a fan than it was back then, even though there are still clashes and rumours and nasty stuff going on. I hoped that, regardless of what they do, from my POV in the gigantic moshpit of fans looking up at Deppy, maybe these will be brighter and more open years than 2012 ever was.
I was certainly not going for assumptions that I am dismissing their right to do whatever they want in whatever time they want.
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Truly an iconic shirt.
. How many people are supposed to be eating that??
but then again, they are a straight couple).
brb reading.
