fancybum wrote: ↑Sat Mar 03, 2018 9:48 pm
I need to say that I find it annoying or something else on a level I don't even have words for that it takes (relatively) explicit references to sex including another person's dick to make people think 'oh so he was serious this whole time' - all the other things weren't enough? Including dudes in his Tinder vid and years of (relatively) less explicit mentions of dudes wasn't enough? He needs to say 'I love dick in my mouth' for people to maybe finally accept 'oh he likes dick' - I mean if spelling that out is him living his truth, GO DAN, but omg I'm already tired at everything.
dreamerxnheaven wrote: ↑Sat Mar 03, 2018 9:40 pm
(Also I deadass thought "Is this the moment? Is Dan ready to officially come out of the closet?" when I saw the title and then he started talking about Sex in present tense and despite my initial reaction to the title i did NOT expect that.)
I mean. what is this. Maybe living his truth is just continuing to reject people shoving him in a fucking closet against his will
even now after all these years with some firmer language. Whatever, bye.
This, so much. I know most of us weren't surprised
that he sucks dick but rather that he felt like mentioning it, but if this really counts as needed confirmation then I don't know where you've been the past... 4 years? And viewing a sexual mention as a milestone for ~coming out~ or however you wanna put it is... allonormative among other things. A relationship doesn't have to be sexual to be romantic, and a guy can be gay without having sex with men.
rizzo wrote: ↑Sat Mar 03, 2018 11:31 pm
Honestly? Sign me up for Dan knocking down one anti-phan theory at a time.
Now that we know he enjoys regular sex, his next video will feature his relationship preferences: "Monogamy. I'm not a big one night stand or short fling guy. Give me that healthy af long-term relationship."
I can actually see that happening omg
hello9217 wrote: ↑Sat Mar 03, 2018 10:04 pm
thesadassassin wrote: ↑Sat Mar 03, 2018 9:53 pm
mark my words we're gonna get official confirmation of phan by the end of this year
This is a really strong hint though. Like Dan in the ls last week "I honestly never leave this house. It's not even a joke; I just am here all the time" Dan in this video, "The present things that make me happy is having sex" and then he ended with "I'm going to have chocolate and something else in my mouth" I'm paraphrasing but this is basically what he's said so unless another person is living with them then I think we can assume the person he's having regular sex with is Phil.
I never thought about that. You're right, if he's not leaving the house then whose dick he gonna suck other than the guy living in his house lol.
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As for the likelihood of them "officially" coming out (whatever that means, because depending on how you look at it, they kind of already have. Let's assume that coming out = explicitly saying "I'm not straight/I'm in a relationship with Dan/Phil"), the first thought that went into my head when I saw the title was coming out and I think that was Dan's intention. As I watched, I was sceptical at first, but soon I deadass thought he was just gonna say he's dating Phil (or that they got married at some point lol). I think they might "officially come out" in 2018; it's definitely a tangible possibility, but I also feel like Dan and Phil are at different places with this stuff. Dan's very... um, open, more so than even some "out" queer people, while Phil doesn't hold back saying things but I don't think he goes out of his way to say things either. Dan very clearly decides to put some things in videos that imply he's non-straight, and in this video even to imply he's sucking off his roommate (well, not roommate... whatever, you know what I mean lol). So maybe individual comings out could be a thing. If they were to come out as a couple, I highly doubt it would be in the form of a solo dinof vid like this one. I also don't think it'd be a big thing with a whole dedicated video about it because I don't think they view their relationship as serious enough to warrant its own video in that way.
Also, the concept of coming out is pretty fucking heteronormative imo. What's to say they're straight? When have they ever claimed to be straight? Exactly, they haven't. So why are we assuming they're straight just because they haven't gone out of their way to say "by the way, I'm a flaming homo"? (well, again, depending on how you look at it, they might as well have said that lol) I've only "properly" "come out" with my sexuality once in my life, but I don't consider myself closeted at all. Everyone knows I'm about as straight as a circle, because I can casually mention it—because it's
normal—and people will get the message. I've only taken someone aside and gone "okay, I need to tell you something" once, and that was when I was coming out as trans to my dad and I thought "dang, might as well get this out of the way while I'm at it".
By the way, I interpreted the first dick-sucking mention as he could just be sleeping with any person who has a dick. Nothing about it particularly screams monogamy, and my instinctive association was sleeping around tbh. Also, just because Dan and Phil are in a committed relationship, doesn't mean they have to be monogamous or Dan can't be sleeping around (talking about an open relationship, not cheating... let's hope Dan doesn't do the latter), for that matter. The mention of how he was going to go and "put something in his mouth"
now, though, does sound like a committed relationship, because that implies there's someone right there ready to, er, help him out with his oral fixation.