Dan & Phil Part 43: I'll touch you when I please

[000dia000]

I really enjoyed reading so much about posters I'm taking note of everything to steal your identity. Though seriously, it's really sweet. I don't have a lot to say, considering I'm only 18, and haven't had a lot of life experience, but I too am one that has always been reserved and desire living at home. Also, I can't really provide much life advice because one, I'm considerably young and can't give anything substantial, and two nobody wants to hear it, but at the same time I really wish the best for everyone here, I like you people.

[/fɪl lɛstɚ/]

I'm a nearly 20 year old college student who is halfway done with their undergrad in communication disorders and facing the looming prospect of trying to get into a Speech Language Pathology grad program... All while dealing with the fact that I've never even had a job and my boyfriend lives 640 miles away.

Needless to say, deppy are a good distraction.

And I completely agree with the whole conversation about relationships and shipping. I've been with my BF for nearly 2 years and I love him to pieces, but it's boring sometimes (especially because we don't really see each other in real life often). I find myself sometimes getting more invested in fictional relationships, but at the end of the day he's the person for me.

[pilotlight]

I just turned 26 and I'm an apprentice pipefitter and I've been married less than a year. My husband was the one who got me into , and I think it's really cute that some of you share an interest in deppy with your kids. I don't have that kinda relationship with my parents (forever a disappointment because I'm really not cut out for academics ) and it makes me vicariously happy to see other families having shared hobbies. I also find it interesting learning more about the people behind the avatars, you're a pretty mixed bunch and that's great.

[fancy_nancy]

it's lovely to learn about other people who post here, so i'll say something about myself: i'm 18 and embarassed to admit i'll be starting uni this year bc i fell behind a year in high school bc i am not good at dealing with mental illness, but better late than never right hahah anyways, i love reading and posting here bc it definitely makes me feel like i have more friends than i actually do.

[cherrybomb3]

hugs to you all you are all equally valid peeps regardless of age and life circumstances

[nephilimcat]

Add me to the university/college drop-outs. Makes me feel a bit better to know that I'm not alone. I moved back in with my parents after two months of moving out because of mental health issues, so that's fun.

hugs to you all you are all equally valid peeps regardless of age and life circumstances

I second this

[VengefulBlue]

21, nearly done with an associate's degree even though it's taken an extra year, and terrified about finishing my bachelor's. i suppose i'll be a teacher since that's what i've been aiming for since i was a tiny child, even though i'm not sure i want the reality of it, if that makes sense? i just don't know what else to do with all that literature knowledge. i live with my mum and my sister and i don't have a job and ughhh.

i've been lurking about a month and finally came out of hiding to hang out bc you guys are cool and i need more people to nerd about deppy with.

[flarequake]

Anyway, so I wanted to thank you guys for somehow making my day brighter. I don't contribute or post much, but I do lurk a lot and read the ongoing discussions, and just reveling in our shared affection for these 2 British guys has helped me in ways I cannot quite articulate. But bottomline, you all have helped me through some tough times. So thanks.

i second this in every way! you all also seem really super nice so it's nice to hang out in here.

sooo. i've been reading the older threads quite a bit but i'm still wondering one thing. has there been any discussion or full on info of why both dan and phil started uploading their live shows to the second channels? is it because TATINOF is over and yt is the only thing they are focusing on (as we know of ) or is there some other reason? ofc the live shows have been a thing forever and other channels have been uploading them and i'm sure they've known that, but why they decided to start uploading them themselves and why now?

I third the top part too

As for the liveshows, it was maybe a delayed reaction to YouNow putting a $5 charge per account to rewatch shows after they'd aired. The guys starting streaming to Tumblr at the same time, from YouNow, and got a ton of views there so I guess they noticed that and figured there'd be a load of people who know their YouTube channels, but hadn't followed them over to YouNow.

On the sharing front, I'm 36, live with my mum as I've had precarious employment with a lot of gaps and contracts as I'm in IT, and partly thanks to mental health, and have tried a few things on the way (degree in Spanish and Linguistics, post-grad in primary school teaching which then failed as I wasn't confident enough to manage a class of 25 8-year-olds, and a coding course that brought my anxiety to the fore with a vengeance and ruined most of last year). I'm still burning to create the novel, now maybe comic, that I've had on the go since 1994, a ridiculously long time to have not yet finished something, but mental health and lack of creative friends to keep spurring me on let it stall a few times. I had a bunch of friends into writing once and it really helped. To anyone deciding on the sensible path but with creative ambitions I'd say do what you need to, but if you can do a job part time while building your own creative thing, go for that. The desire has not left me at all and I'd love the time and energy from the bulk of the day to put into it.

[karma_yeah]

Just want to say to all of you!

I never in a million years thought I'd be a part of a forum of all things, but I've really enjoyed being here. I check the thread daily and know the no matter how bad my day may have been (I hate my job), something on IDB will make me smile or touch my heart.

I know a lot of people have told that they've met friends because of them, but I don't think deppy really understand just how much of a positive impact they have on people literally around the world.

[pastelspectre]

just like to say you're all amazing people and are all valid!

i'm 19 and a high school graduate (though i dont act 19 or feel 19 i honestly feel like i'm 15 or 16), and am trying to figure out what i want to do with my life. i might go to college in the fall bc..idk, seems like a good start to figure out what i want in my life. mental illness is hard to deal with for me as well and i'm also still figuring out things about myself even now. but.. oh well. i'm sure i'll get through it. i'm just glad i found out about bc even though i was only 14 or 15 when i first found out about them, they did help make my days slightly brighter through the hard times and they do that now again as well since i've returned to them. and..yeah. i'm not good at feelings sorry.

[Catallena]

I like how my one jokey comment sparked a support group of fellow 20 somethings who are a little stuck in life rn and some nice IDB community bonding time. I love every single one of you and hope life stops sucking balls

To provide more context to my comment; I turned 24 this year and due to mental problems I had to temporarily halt my post-high school education twice before ultimately quitting altogether in 2013. I used to study Tourism & Hospitality, which is the worst possible for someone as naturally awkward, shy and introverted as me. Since then I've tried to do a home course but it was impossible for me to get out of bed on most days, let alone to actually get some books out and study. I've had several kinds of therapy (completed the most recent one last November) and was on prozac for 3 years which probably did more harm than good. The only thing I'm doing with my life currently is volunteering at the local animal shelter but now I feel so stuck and useless. I want to go back to school (not full time though..) but have absolutely no idea what I want to do. I have no real passions or talents and I'm so afraid that I'll make the wrong choice and end up miserable and then fail again. On top of that because I have so little work experience and such huge gaps in my resume both work and education wise (there are 17 year olds out there with a better resume than me tbh..) I'm not someone employers will happily take on. I want to be more independent so bad because right now I rely on my parents for almost everything and I feel super guilty about it because my dad doesn't make as much money as he used to anymore either + my mom is unable to work.. I really wanna take some steps to a better life and future again this year, but I don't know where to start. I'm scared, anxious and feel somewhat alone in my misery. Shit genuinely keeps me up at night.

Anyway here's a cute cat gif:

[adonais]

Ah seeing as though we're doing introductions, I'm an 18 year old canadian girl!
I just finished up my first year of college and although academics is my strong suit, I'm about to drop out to go to art school! Which is scary as heck. But I think it is the right decision. (Hopefully.)

Like others have said, it's so nice to properly meet you all and get a context behind the avatars.

[Waggle9007]

Everyone on here is so nice! I genuinely wish the best for those of you who are struggling with stuff at the moment (although, like dia I have no life advice, as I'm only 20 ) It's been fantastic to have a little bit of context behind everyone's posts!

I'm a bit boring, as I'm a 2nd year medical student currently dying of exams and stress. Needless to say, I definitely lurk on here way more than is probably healthy, but you guys always make me feel better when I've had a really crappy day, so thanks for being here IDB

[auri]

Well now I feel like i just made a joke and everyone else is just really talking about serious stuff well. I'm turning 23, living with my mum (in two weeks it has been a year). I had to move in back with her last spring after i had a slight (well, tbqh, major) mental breakdownas my mental health problems decided that i am not infact sane enough to take care of myself. Now I'm unemployed and heartbroken. I graduated from vocational school few months ago, but it took a long time to get here as i am a high school dropout. But yeah, that's me, hi.

It's nice to bond over life as Deppy are having quiet time where ever they are. You are all very nice indeed and as said, valid.

[onetruetrash]

Reading all this, I just realized this truly is the Internet Support Group.

[cherrybomb3]

bloody heck this is getting rather emotional


on a meta level though i feel like this is all quite interesting and healthy. like, it seems quite refreshing and useful and stuff to break down the walls of impersonality that are almost necessarily created by fandoms - you are, to put it slightly bluntly, one of many humans that are dedicated to a reasonably distant character or person or duo or show
i think that getting to know members of that fandom on a (slightly, not too excessive) more personal level sort of humanises the whole experience and makes it much more worthwhile, if only bc you dont feel so much like youre adrift in a sea of faceless and formless people who exist only by virtue of their status as a fan



sorry if none of that makes sense my body clock is all over the place and im rather tired x__x

[saffarinda]

Wow, so many of you guys are in your 20s, I guess I'm the only 15-year-old here!

I'm 16! We can both be the young ones together

I'm doing my GCSE's in a few weeks but im comparison to the stuff everyone on here is doing it feels pretty small in comparison I want to go on to do Psychology, English (Lit&Lang or maybe just Lit, I haven't decided ), Sociology and Biology at A-Level, then Psychology at Unversity and hopefully get a job in the field of Forensic Psychology, although my backup plan is Forensic Linguistics if I end up doing terribly in Psychology aha.

[saffarinda]

Sorry I haven't figured out how to quote people on here but:

"You were probs being sarcastic, but just in case, I'm not a whole lot to be jealous of (dull marriage, unemployed). Got a cool daughter tho. Mostly I just live vicariously thru deppy."

Same, Susan, same. I'm definitely not successful nor distinguished. I'm a stay at home mom (and I'm pretty awful at that). I haven't yet got a handle on my anxiety and my immune system sucks. But I do have a cute kid, so I'll just focus on that. This morning he came upstairs with a piece of paper with cat whiskers drawn on it and the words Dan and Phil below, just to cheer me up. He proudly said he drew it with a sharpie.

Other cute moments from the last month: Almost everyday after he gets off the bus he practically chants "Dan and Phil!" because that's what we watch while he has his after school snack before homework. Yesterday we were at a double play date (I say double because me and his friend's mom really get on, we geek out about HP and Scorbus). The boys were in the other room but I could hear my son say "And now for the Amazing Phil!" I think he was maybe imitating his magic routine.

The other night at dinner he began singing 'The Internet is Here' and we made it into a duet until the husband asked us to please stop. It was quite good. A week ago he came out into the kitchen wearing grey jeans, a black t-shirt, a blazer and his dad's bowler hat to dance to TIIH. I filmed a bit but it needs work.

Last week he had to write an Easter Bunny essay and their teacher took a photo of them and put a bunny filter over their faces. He said he hated the photo because he looked too pale, 'almost as pale as Phil', he also complained he looked too cute. True, but I don't see the problem.

We watched the interactive Christmas Special together and followed the paths on the computer. My son starts crying when Dan sacrificed himself. I comforted him, assured him it was okay and asked why he cried. He said he didn't want to imagine a Phil without a Dan. He also cried at the end of the Krave cereal challenge when Dan had to destroy Phil's lion onesie. My emotional child.

One of the most common phrases he says while watching their videos is "Oh Phil!" in like that fond 'you silly goof' kinda voice and "Dan!" in a why would you do that way. We've been watching lots of Dan vs Phil BBC 1 live show clips lately. So fun times at our house.

To all of you having a rough time with life at any age *hugs*

ETA: On the topic of emojis I think there really needs to be a heart eyes one! Testing if iPad emojis work here, nope fail. And yay fellow mums! "Hey ladies!" (No, but hi everyone!)

Your kid sounds so cute!! Bless him for crying at Dan being sacrificed and Phil's onsie being cut up, aww I imagine having Phil's generally "no swearing" content is useful for ensuring he doesn't hear anything bad (not so sure about Dan though )

[onetruetrash]

Wow, so many of you guys are in your 20s, I guess I'm the only 15-year-old here!

I'm 16! We can both be the young ones together

Yay! I really thought most people on here would be in their teens, so this is really interesting.

[bluebox-away]

Reading all this, I just realized this truly is the Internet Support Group.

This is so accurate, and honestly I kind of love that this thread has become that while Deppy are off the grid presumably jet-lagging in their flat or new house

I feel like I've given a similar bio on a side-thread when idb first started, but I'm also in the mildly lost 20-somethings club 21 about 6 weeks away from finishing my undergraduate degree without much direction as to what I really want to do afterwards, but I've applied for some masters because apparently that's the thing to do
Like loads of you, socially awkward af and although I've not been diagnosed with anything I'm pretty certain I've not got the best mental health. This last semester of uni has been fairly brutal between my workload and my grandmother dying so idb and D&P have been a lovely distraction from all that and I really appreciate you all

[dontpanic]

I wasn't going to post anything but the more I read about you guys the warmer I feel, if that makes sense? Im 20 working on my econ PhD as I moved through school too very fast which yes, left me with awkward social skills of the anxious and shy variety, a beautiful cherry on top of my BP-1, and my family went from estranged to disowning me. and ngl, I'm really glad Deppy picked now to have a romantic getaway as I'm definitely using this as a coping mechanism since my s/o left me to go on sabbatical and now I technically live in my car (not as bad as it sounds).

But hearing about how all you parents out there genuinely care about your kids, how you've found a way to bond with them and validate their creativity...it makes me kind of jealous, but like the good kind of jealous where I hope I can be just like you.

And to everyone on here facing struggle or heartbreak or fear--you are brave, you are strong even when you may feel weak, because sometimes even lacing up your shoes or getting out of bed is a courageous act.

It’s surreal, having people to talk to about some super tall nerds who make me smile. I’ve been in a number of fandoms but I’ve never found a place like here; honestly, IDB is one of the most respectful places I’ve seen on the internet, which is really surprising since it’s a gossip forum onetruetrash you’re right, we’re the ISG Dan once dreamed of

(And lol, thx all for usually being most active during my office hours. No one ever comes so you all make me feel less lonely ) btw if you're in school go to your instructors' office hours, it'll make them happy and they might even be more generous when grading your stuff ProTip

Okay, I'll stop be soppy. Have we figured out where Deppy actually are?

[malday]

[Moderator note: post edited at the request of original poster to remove personal information.]

[Appa]

Wow, so many of you guys are in your 20s, I guess I'm the only 15-year-old here!

I'm 16! We can both be the young ones together

I'm doing my GCSE's in a few weeks but im comparison to the stuff everyone on here is doing it feels pretty small in comparison I want to go on to do Psychology, English (Lit&Lang or maybe just Lit, I haven't decided ), Sociology and Biology at A-Level, then Psychology at Unversity and hopefully get a job in the field of Forensic Psychology, although my backup plan is Forensic Linguistics if I end up doing terribly in Psychology aha.

I'm 15 so we can form a young trio! I havent done any of the revision I planned to do this half term for GCSE's rip me

I found this forum this week so this is my first post, hello!

[thephandommenace]

i am a 25 year old boy who lives with his soulmate in london, moving house soon, university of manchester dropout, no children, married since 2015

Re fashion: I would never buy a pair of ripped jeans myself. I'm especially annoyed by the ones that just have one straight slash across the knees. Like they ruined a perfectly good pair of jeans! But I love them on Dan.

Those jeans slashed only at the knee are the bane of my existence. (Though stylishly distressed ones are okay for some reason.) They just make me think of that scene from Mean Girls. But tbh when it comes to fashion I don't have a leg to stand on (ayyy).

I feel like I've given a similar bio on a side-thread when idb first started, but I'm also in the mildly lost 20-somethings club 21 about 6 weeks away from finishing my undergraduate degree without much direction as to what I really want to do afterwards, but I've applied for some masters because apparently that's the thing to do
Like loads of you, socially awkward af and although I've not been diagnosed with anything I'm pretty certain I've not got the best mental health. This last semester of uni has been fairly brutal between my workload and my grandmother dying so idb and D&P have been a lovely distraction from all that and I really appreciate you all

Actually exact same, though make that 22, with growing resentment for my subject choices (whoever said a Joint Honours degree wouldn't be much more work than Single Honours was a bloody liar), and now don't want to do anything related to those subjects at all when I graduate... but it feels like I've come too far to drop out now. I've started going to counselling for my various repressed mental health issues, and I'll hopefully scrape a pass, then have a year off (not by choice) before going on to do a Masters in something completely unrelated and then worry about what to do with my life
And to think, when I first embarked on my 4-year Joint Honours degree, I thought I'd have a stable job and be out of my parent's house by the age of 23... I was young then, and full of hope.

I'm so sorry to hear quite a few people are struggling as well. I hope you can find passion for what you love again, and that life straightens out eventually, and you are all valid.

I find the mums on here sharing their love of with their kids so so so cute!
I have a 17yo brother who usually watches the 'edgier' YouTubers (you know the kind) but I sometimes get him to watch Deppy with me (after the obligatory sighing and eyerolling at me constantly mentioning them) but I'm pleased to say he finds them hilarious and has even cried laughing watching them. It's nice to see D&P's humour is accessible even to the reluctant viewer

[000dia000]

Controversial Post: It is apparent, that Dan made a lot of money through his company as of last year (the first figure along the bottom being of 2016, the second being 2015), this is all publicly accessible btw

Basically, a new house isn't out of the question, to put it mildly.

EDIT: I for some reason, didn't think to look for Phil's, he brings in just a little less:

These dates are as of the 20th April, so fairly recent.