Dan & Phil Part 70: giving the people what they want

[autumnhearth]

I don’t know how or why he’s feeling moist but damn those collar bones.

They sure are crossing through Scotland a lot this week aren’t they?

Also Phil tour promo:

Ugh sorry for that ugly formatting.

[rizzo]

I don’t know how or why he’s feeling moist but damn those collar bones.

NGL. I'm living for the videos they both just post, but this right here? This makes me uncomfortable. Dan, stop. I'm squirming.

[autumnhearth]

Those most recent instastories are are adorable, but updatedphan really needs to update this morning, because Tumblr embed of videos is gross.

Thank you for the infant care insight @ame that was a nice read

Edit: here I think this covers in nicely, though it is lacking the music.

[dancy]

^^ We get it, guys, you love each other :number1:

Welp, good luck! They're doing two shows on Saturday in Edinburgh and the second one will end at around 10pm and then they have a 4-hour drive to Liverpool, where they will also perform twice on the same day and have a M&G in the morning. On Monday and Tuesday, there'll be another two shows in Manchester! Geez, I wouldn't want to be them.

I'm not surprised they're doing a #spon considering these are the dates that sold the least well. Still don't really get why they decided to do two shows in these places as they would've already been sold out had they done only one and it would've been much less tiring. I feel like slightly larger venues would've been better options but I don't know what was available at the time they booked them, of course.

[autumnhearth]

I definitely can’t hate them being playful.

[onomatopoeia]

they made me so weirdly emotional tonight with these insta stories ;_; they're just so comfortable around each other and have so much fun together and make each other smile so much, my poor heart can't handle so much feels in a day

[lilabet]

Just adding these here for reference

[alittledizzy]

@lilabet ty for adding those in, I was just trying to figure out if they'd all been posted here or not! Jeez they've been so active. I like it though, I like it.

But if they're interested in concrit hey Dan maybe some nice candids of Phil like he keeps posting of you?

[knq]

It took me way too long to figure out that said "moisturised" and not "moist" followed by a medication that turns your urine a blue-green color.

Also, today I learned there is a medication that can turn your urine a blue-green color! Thanks, Dan.

[missemma]

aww, i feel nostaglic that they're playing sheffield tonight, this was the first place i ever met people from idb at! I wish i was going tonight.

also, love that deppy seem to be listening to a bit of metal whilst getting ready for the m&g. i noticed that the gorgeous lady who modelled dan's merch (who dan said worked for them) is into some really good music so I hope she's been educating them both

[ratlad]

wow okay who gave them permission to be so adorable in their instas?
never stop, please.
i like the spur of the moment instas that phil is taking of dan, wouldn't mind dan doing the same thing with him though... *cough*

[alittledizzy]

For the show recaps so far I've been scrounging every day having to hit up people last minute since I'm never entirely sure who is at what show. I'm gonna try to get a bit more organized now - so if you're attending the show and wouldn't mind recording audio for me to transcribe, can you let me know?

You can PM me here (or if you're a lurker just send me a message on tumblr - though I will need a way to contact you so no anon, please). I just want to be able to keep track of who is willing to help me out and what shows I might be out of luck with.

[snokoplasmic]

A rare actual, toothy smile from Phil!

[ratlad]

A rare actual, toothy smile from Phil!

I LOVE THAT, I CAN'T REMEMBER THE LAST TIME I'VE SEEN A TEETH SMILE FROM PHIL! SO PRETTY!

[LtrllySusan]

Omg he's adorable, why doesn't he smile more like that?

Also love Dan's facial expression in his story photo about the floors (don't hate relate)

[autumnhearth]

It took me way too long to figure out that said "moisturised" and not "moist" followed by a medication that turns your urine a blue-green color.

Also, today I learned there is a medication that can turn your urine a blue-green color! Thanks, Dan.

Me too, only my dumb Harry Potter afflicted brain was equating ‘urised’ with ‘erised’ and I was wondering why it wasn’t working backwards MOISTurised makes so much more sense.

Love the Philly teeth smile

[human]

Lol tonight's show...

I guess it was only a matter of time on that complicated af stage.

[lesterchuu]

A rare actual, toothy smile from Phil!

wow i feel like theyre actually glowing, also i feel so blessed to see their casual snaps my heart cant take this

[lesterchuu]

Lol tonight's show...

I guess it was only a matter of time on that complicated af stage.

and they say phil is the clumsy one lol

[flarequake]

They both look so sweet in that m&g photo and I love the light up dance floor especially with Phil lying on it.

Also did not see Dan being the first to fall over, but he kicked one of the benches the other night so it’s not a total surprise. I can just imagine him rolled up in this ball laughing about it.

[Catallena]

Honestly that stage is death trap, I doubt this will be the last time one of them falls on their face :') Be careful boys, don't break your necks before the Amsterdam shows.

[alittledizzy]

alright, im gunna haveta stretch my typing fingers because this is going to be a long read...

im sure many of you have pointed it out already - mister daniel is quite a natural when it comes to interacting with babies. i guess it comes from his innate love of children or from experience or BOTH, but it gave me such a glee watching how he lovingly holds little pearl in his arms and just being very gentle with her. i think he got the basics down honestly: he maintains level eye contact when talking to her, talks to her clearly, shows an expressive face and a warm smile, knows how to hold her PROPERLY....gee i could go on and on. i definitely think that hes a capable caregiver when he puts his mind into it. yet if hes so capable, why did louise end up choosing phil over dan to take care of pearl?

her reasoning was that phil would be "less terrified and deal with situations better" which is very interesting. phil has said on many occasions that babies "seem" to hate him. ive already dropped my two cents in this in that i do think its just his inexperience on interacting with babies, that and his inner panic is reflecting towards the baby in question. from my experience, children are very sensitive to subtle facial expressions and overall body language thats why in a moment of crisis, you must do your GODDAMN best to act calm because if you panic, then EVERYONE panics. i agree with what @watsonian said about dan preventing the "phil-exposure tears" lol. dan, being the baby whisperer, made sure pearl knew she was in safe hands, and at the same time, reminding phil that its alright.

anyways, i do think that phil has a potential to be a good parent/caregiver - he just needs to let go of his insecurity and belief that all babies hate him. because 1) everyone can be insecure towards handling and interacting with kids, no matter how experienced you are (heck i still get scared sometimes when babies im feeding start to cough because i FOR SURE dont wanna do baby cpr even tho i know how and is qualified, its still hella scary) and 2) babies have different personalities and comfort zones. some babies are just naturally sociable and some take time, and its all good. they dont cry because of phil, they cry because they probably dont know him yet. like louise said, phil seems to know how to deal with situations whenever it arises. yes, he may panic but i have a feeling that its a productive kind of panic. the most recent example i could think of was when dan almost blinded himself. i dont know how accurate dan's anecdote is, but phil seemed to know how to convert his "stress" adrenaline into "lets get shit done" adrenaline. he didnt just sit there and panic with him, he actively sought out help (googled what to do next) and assisted dan whenever he can (immediately told dan to wash it out again, helped him with the eye drops). in moments of stressful situations or emergencies, sometimes its inevitable to freeze but knowing how tosnap out of it and make use of the adrenaline rush to your own benefit is a good skill to have.

tldr; phil is a reliable person, he just needs to believe in himself more.

and i think this is where louise was getting at. sure, dan is good with babies but he can also be pretty careless at times (reasons why dans a fail™ yay). phil seems to be the one to handle situations much better - and when youre working with kids, honey, theres gunna be a LOT of those. however, like phil said, he can be quite clumsy.....but thats where dan comes in. its a perfect balance.

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CAUTION: the next part may come off as very demon phannie but click the spoilers if you want some fic inspo i guess lol

in terms of parenting: both of them can be endearing but to put it simply, dan is the fun dad and phil is the responsible dad. itll most likely be dan whos on the floor crawling with the baby and playing together while phil is researching for homemade baby food recipes or setting up the baby monitor. theyll build the crib together ala "the wardrobe" style. theyll both suck at changing diapers at first, probably get peed at while changing them once or twice. then as the kid grows older, theyll do family gaming nights with mario kart or board games. phil will be the one to nag about doing homework but hell also help whenever he can. dan would be that one very loud and supportive parent during school recitals. but, it can also go the other way where dans the one to listen to worries about school or love life and phil plays duo in fortnite or helps them with a good idea to prank dan....its a good balance.

ok im done bye

I'm backing up a page just because I wanted to respond to this post and say how much I love it. I'm especially fascinated by the line I bolded because I think that's absolutely true and you phrased it in a way that had never occurred to me before. I think even some of the anecdotes Phil himself has told lend to that; it comes across as overboard and just pure anxiety in a situation where he feels that adrenaline and can't/shouldn't do anything but his impulse is still to act - like the movie theater where the guy tripped over their feet. Phil said he wanted to buy the guy a soda but he already had a drink. That kind of "assess the situation, what can I do" attitude would probably come in pretty handy with a kid!

(And of course I love what's below the spoiler but that should probably go without saying.)

[SquishPhan]

Looking good.

[starwatersong]

Damn. Phil giving the people what they want.

Also love the bonus shot in the same space in his Instagram story — don’t know how to embed it here.

[wiccamoody]

god, he looks lovely and I'm so here for Dan liking the picture so fast ahh