Dan & Phil Part 87: post coming out universe

[snokoplasmic]

The sweater looks kinda dumb but I love him so much and am so proud of him that I'm just gonna disregard it for now
Also I don't have the time to fully respond to your post, but I've gotta say, phanfckingtastic, that is worst fucking hot take I've literally ever seen

[Mia]

Omg that shirt is definitely either homemade/custom made for this event. I LOVE IT!! It looks like sequins stuck to a skeleton bone shirt/jumper, the gaps where the red sequins are kinda show that

[alittledizzy]

Omg that shirt is definitely either homemade/custom made for this event. I LOVE IT!! It looks like sequins stuck to a skeleton bone shirt/jumper, the gaps where the red kinda show that

Homemade, apparently!!

[scientia]

Going to put my Phil thoughts under spoiler to avoid raining on the parade with a not so positive take.

Happy pride London
Dan being there, great. Good for him. But that sign he’s holding is stupid, sorry. People are being killed. Rights being rolled back. It’s not all jokey and about yourself all the time, Howell. You’re almost 30 ffs.
Phil’s absence... yikes.

I don’t think Phil understands the world he lives in at all. People are done with vacuous celebrities. Does he intend to stay in entertainment avoiding mentions of anything that isn’t food animals or plants at all cost? Good luck with that in 2019, the year of the worldwide turmoil. And US elections next year? Ha!
Like, how detached can you get from defending your own rights and supporting your community, especially as a cis white (rich) gay? It’s not “controversial” or particularly “political”, it’s pretty basic stuff, it’s paying respect to people who gave their lives for your cushy lifestyle today.
Coming out to his audience after becoming a millionaire off teasing from the closet for a decade was nice & positive, but at this point the bare minimum.
Then not taking part in pride a few days later, while releasing merch in the meantime and profiting again off the wave of attention after coming out? a joke. People like Sam fucking Smith of insane international fame were there today. We gay men with a conscience simply have to do so. much. more. No excuses.
I can’t believe I used to like Phil so much. I think I was put under a spell, or something.
I will always be fond of their cute love story but if Phil wasn’t at pride at all and doesn’t even tweet an excuse or explanation I will be surprised if they make it as a couple another 2 or 3 years, and if he lasts that much as a public personality, too. All that influence and fame just to count money hiding away in your penthouse, keeping the output comfortably safe & lukewarm at all times? Meh.
Would be more than happy to be proven wrong. Until then, next!

So there’s lots of problems I have with this, namely that people can and should be able to celebrate pride however the heck they want - but also, who are you to decide why Phil didn’t go? You’re basing all of this on pure speculation and it’s actually pretty gross.

[Ataraxia25]

I AM FUCKING DEAD

Quoting myself because this pic deserves to be on this page too.

[eevee]

I CAN'T BELIEVE DAN MADE THAT HIMSELF, SO TALENTED!! IT LITERALLY LOOKS AMAZING!!!! I LOVE IT SO MUCH!!!!!!! IM NOT OK!!!! I legit didn't know he was that artistically inclined!

also what a mood

[lilabet]

I wonder what parties and events he's going to. Something for stonewall probably but there's so much on this weekend.

[Ataraxia25]

Going to put my Phil thoughts under spoiler to avoid raining on the parade with a not so positive take.

Happy pride London
Dan being there, great. Good for him. But that sign he’s holding is stupid, sorry. People are being killed. Rights being rolled back. It’s not all jokey and about yourself all the time, Howell. You’re almost 30 ffs.
Phil’s absence... yikes.

I don’t think Phil understands the world he lives in at all. People are done with vacuous celebrities. Does he intend to stay in entertainment avoiding mentions of anything that isn’t food animals or plants at all cost? Good luck with that in 2019, the year of the worldwide turmoil. And US elections next year? Ha!
Like, how detached can you get from defending your own rights and supporting your community, especially as a cis white (rich) gay? It’s not “controversial” or particularly “political”, it’s pretty basic stuff, it’s paying respect to people who gave their lives for your cushy lifestyle today.
Coming out to his audience after becoming a millionaire off teasing from the closet for a decade was nice & positive, but at this point the bare minimum.
Then not taking part in pride a few days later, while releasing merch in the meantime and profiting again off the wave of attention after coming out? a joke. People like Sam fucking Smith of insane international fame were there today. We gay men with a conscience simply have to do so. much. more. No excuses.
I can’t believe I used to like Phil so much. I think I was put under a spell, or something.
I will always be fond of their cute love story but if Phil wasn’t at pride at all and doesn’t even tweet an excuse or explanation I will be surprised if they make it as a couple another 2 or 3 years, and if he lasts that much as a public personality, too. All that influence and fame just to count money hiding away in your penthouse, keeping the output comfortably safe & lukewarm at all times? Meh.
Would be more than happy to be proven wrong. Until then, next!

Excuse me, did you say "an excuse or an explanation"? Did i read this right? Phil does not owe anyone an explanation about whether he was or was not at Pride. Pride in particular is an experience and not everyone can or wants to participate. And also: You don't know anything about what he's doing in private to help the community. For all we know he gives money to charity on a regular basis.
Also please, he did not tease his audience. His love story was basically made public against his will ffs, the guy was outed all over the internet.
And then you say "teasing from the closet"? Not stating your sexuality or you relationship status doesn't not mean being in the closet.
Sorry for this messy post, I'm mad, this is a mess, I'm gonna stop there

[eevee]

I wonder what parties and events he's going to. Something for stonewall probably but there's so much on this weekend.

I would LOVE to see him go to a pride party/club/block party whatever london pride has!!! If he doesn't go to a party I will be sad but I will support his decision. The pride parade and nightlife parties go hand in hand so I hope dan lives it up and goes to a party!!

also yeah phanfckingtastic are you okay?? genuine question. pride is a celebration, we're all supposed to be happy here.

shade never made anybody less gay so...

[Secretstanner]

I AM FUCKING DEAD

I love you bitch I ain’t never gonna stop loving you bitch I think it’s cool love him being a ho! Now can he actually hang around more of the events tonight because I wanna see more pics of him and I’m not ready for it to be over! Please don’t go home yet

[phanfckingtastic]

The real world is my boyfriend getting attacked a few nights ago just for being queer. In fact, the only reason I’m posting again is because I’m waiting on a friend to pick me up and go visit him at his family home where he’s being looked after. Real gay life is not cute outfits and glitter. Which is why we march in the first place.

So excuse me if taking distance from the phandom has made me realise I don’t have to constantly justify or gloss over everything dan and phil do.
I’d be happy to hear what actually happened with Phil and why he’s been silent about pride so far today. I’m not doubting he has good intentions, just that it’s not nearly enough.
Hearing from him instead of vaguely liking tweets would be a nice start.
But until proven otherwise I maintain my idea that if a gay man (or men, dan did it too) can profit after coming out, he can take a half hour of his day to support the people who get attacked, who died of aids, who get murdered and disappeared, who live in fear, in poverty, in shame, who can’t afford or be afforded healthcare and kill themselves.
Celebrating pride, yeah, it’s personal... for regular people. Although I will always see it equally as a protest (or more so) than just a celebration. But a recently public white affluent cis gay man who’s been privately out for a decade, with millions of followers? I’m sorry, Philly, you have a responsibility. Own up to it.
Dan, silly placard or not, at least owned up. It’s not a choice anymore for privileged queers to stay out of the most basic displays of support and honour towards those queer trailblazers to whom we owe everything. And if anyone has a valid excuse not to do it should be the man himself, not his fans.

[yellowsubmarine]

Dan looks so vibrant. Glowing. HAPPY!!!
He kinda gave up with the sequins at the red corner of his shirt but i forgive him that must have taken forever

I'm so happy for all the people who got to meet him. And to think I was there last year. If only I had gone this year maybe I could have said hi. Oh well maybe next year.

The future sure is looking queer with this beautiful icon at the front and center

[plinthofmylife]

Dan being there, great. Good for him. But that sign he’s holding is stupid, sorry. People are being killed. Rights being rolled back. It’s not all jokey and about yourself all the time, Howell. You’re almost 30 ffs.

Um... I do not think having a joke on a sign while you march in a coalition with Black and Trans group is in any way not acceptable. Humor is an important part of all revolutions, particularly for getting the oppressed group's message out - and SHOWING UP and supporting marginalized groups with his privilege as a cis white rich dude is the most important work dan can do. He has been supporting trans* rights since before he was out on twitter. He may do a charity pride merch collection next year.

The dude has been out for 3 weeks, FFS, after 10 years in a very public glass closet and 16 years of dealing with bullying, IRL and online, about his sexuality. His coming out was covered on worldwide media - most people's are at most circulated on a group chat or facebook. His story, including recognition of how far we have to go, was viewed by over 8 million people. Have some freaking empathy.

Celebration, being over the top, and gallows humor have ALWAYS been part of the queer community. If you need some education on how the queer community has been uniting using glitter, humor, sass, and a lot of style for over 40+ years, I recommend watching Paris is Burning about the ballroom community (or Pose, the new series about it).

Being upset about Dan's sign when he's literally the celebrity guest at a trans*/black solidarity march is ridiculous when many other queer youtubers (Lilly Singh, Anna Akana) that recently came out literally just got drunk at pride and dressed as their best slutty selves (also an acceptable way to celebrate pride).

I'm sorry, Phil does not owe you an appearance at a parade, and Dan is not required to leave humor at the door to fight the fights we have.

[susan2]

[obvsly]

Going to put my Phil thoughts under spoiler to avoid raining on the parade with a not so positive take.

Happy pride London

Dan being there, great. Good for him. But that sign he’s holding is stupid, sorry. People are being killed. Rights being rolled back. It’s not all jokey and about yourself all the time, Howell. You’re almost 30 ffs.
Phil’s absence... yikes.

I don’t think Phil understands the world he lives in at all. People are done with vacuous celebrities. Does he intend to stay in entertainment avoiding mentions of anything that isn’t food animals or plants at all cost? Good luck with that in 2019, the year of the worldwide turmoil. And US elections next year? Ha!
Like, how detached can you get from defending your own rights and supporting your community, especially as a cis white (rich) gay? It’s not “controversial” or particularly “political”, it’s pretty basic stuff, it’s paying respect to people who gave their lives for your cushy lifestyle today.
Coming out to his audience after becoming a millionaire off teasing from the closet for a decade was nice & positive, but at this point the bare minimum.
Then not taking part in pride a few days later, while releasing merch in the meantime and profiting again off the wave of attention after coming out? a joke. People like Sam fucking Smith of insane international fame were there today. We gay men with a conscience simply have to do so. much. more. No excuses.
I can’t believe I used to like Phil so much. I think I was put under a spell, or something.
I will always be fond of their cute love story but if Phil wasn’t at pride at all and doesn’t even tweet an excuse or explanation I will be surprised if they make it as a couple another 2 or 3 years, and if he lasts that much as a public personality, too. All that influence and fame just to count money hiding away in your penthouse, keeping the output comfortably safe & lukewarm at all times? Meh.
Would be more than happy to be proven wrong. Until then, next!

Oh come on. I felt so dirty just reading that I needed to take a shower to come back clear headed enough to write a sensible reply. This is probably still not sensible but whatever.

Have you ever done something 100% of what you’ve got and still people say “that’s not good enough coz others are still dying WE NEED YOU AT 200%”??? that’s the reason why no one wants to do anything at all!

There might be a million other reasons why one just CAN’T be there in person, and they’re not obligated at all to tell you the exact reason. Sure I’d love to see phil’s face there but hey I couldn’t be there myself so should I hate myself too?

I’m starting to think this is EXACTLY why they might not have wanted to come out in the first place. The EXPECTATIONS are so high and so impossible to fulfill it’s just so doubtful if it’s even worth it.

[socksparadox]

I'm so overwhelmed. I'm so unbelievably happy for Dan. He deserves all the happiness in the world and I'm so proud of him because I know how much of a big step this is for him!
As for Phil, I'm a little shocked he's not at pride, especially since we're post-coming out video, but at the end of the day it's his choice and I don't think it's that big of a deal or means anything significant. I think that going to this was a lot more meaningful to Dan as oppose to Phil because of how much he's gone through in terms of self-acceptance anyway. I also don't think he owes anyone an explanation or an excuse or anything for not going. How someone chooses to express their sexuality is their choice and nobody is entitled to trying to change that.

[snoopysadie]

I'm sorry, I had to change my avatar because it was the same picture as phanfckingtastic and I did not want to be in any way associated with her very negative view of Phil. Because I am incredibly proud of Phil and how he has behaved in the past years and weeks.
He was out to people he wanted to be out to. He is supportive in his own way. He doesn't owe anyone any parade appearances. If you feel like you wasted money or time on him I'm afraid that that is on you, I hope your day improves and you can see like a bit more positively.



(edited to put the name in bold, just in case)

[plinthofmylife]

Can I just comment I really never thought we'd be in a universe where Dan Howell would go to pride in a rainbow sequin shirt he crafted himself and march in a fucking parade? Like. I'm just. Shook.

Truly a new timeline we're in now.

[sonicgreen]

I don’t want to pile on but my thoughts Re: “dnp aren’t doing pride right” are below

Not being front & center at pride or any public event does NOT equate complacency. We are not owed public displays of activism from these two. We don’t know what they do in their personal lives, from donating to voting to volunteering time/resources. And it is not anyones place to be policing how people show pride. Theres always going to be shit going on in the world, but you can’t force people to express emotions the way you want to see.

[sparkle]

lol if you think pride can't have humour you need to look up the origin story of the Pits and Perverts benefit concert by LGSM.

and nobody has to go to pride for a million reasons. thank you. Ive missed pride before because it's been on my grandmas birthday. Doesn't make me any less queer.

Back on topic. Dan Howell is fucking slaying me today. Gay looks great on him.

[alittledizzy]

[Puffy]

The real world is my boyfriend getting attacked a few nights ago just for being queer. In fact, the only reason I’m posting again is because I’m waiting on a friend to pick me up and go visit him at his family home where he’s being looked after. Real gay life is not cute outfits and glitter. Which is why we march in the first place.

I just want to comment on this because I don’t want you to feel like you’re not being heard when I can see you’re clearly hurting right now. I’m so sorry this happened to your boyfriend. I really am. It’s horrible that this could happen to anyone and I hope he’ll be okay.


As for the rest of it, I think others have covered it off quite well in their responses. It can be easy to be upset at a person in a prominent position for not doing what you’d like them to do, but we don’t know why he didn’t and I would like to think that would be respected regardless of who that person is. Not every lgbtq+ person is ready and willing to get involved in pride and it doesn’t mean they’re a bad person.

[CapriciousCrab]

The real world is my boyfriend getting attacked a few nights ago just for being queer. In fact, the only reason I’m posting again is because I’m waiting on a friend to pick me up and go visit him at his family home where he’s being looked after. Real gay life is not cute outfits and glitter. Which is why we march in the first place

I'm sorry about your boyfriend, I hope he's alright and getting the care and support he needs. And you as well.

As for the rest- there's more than one way to support the community. Not everyone is made to be an activist and the quieter, behind the scenes involvement is just as important. They're all pieces of a whole and all vital.

[Mia]

Dan is in the background on Channel 4 News pride section, spotted his sign before I saw him

[Secretstanner]

Dan is in the background on Channel 4 News pride section, spotted his sign before I saw him

Ohh do you remember what time you saw him? I’ll try and catch it on plus one