Dan & Phil Part 30: I want your ass

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bantstrash wrote:Re the Canadian monument. Well they weren't wrong, it is like a canadian stonehenge. Stonehenge was/is a religious monument. It probably wasn't very respectful to say in the book it was creepy af but lots of religious monuments are creepy so I can understand them thinking it.
Yeah, I don't think it's a huge deal either. There are lots of meaningful monuments in London and it doesn't bother me if people who don't know what they are make jokes about how they look. It's not like these people know the meaning behind the monument and are then still making the jokes about it; that would be pretty bad but not this imo.
Didn't they also sass how underwhelming Stonehenge was/is? Didn't see any fuss then.
What next. People going to kick off cos they rehearsed for TATINOF in an old church? :roll:
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Catallena wrote:So this isn't very cool :\

http://radioheaddan.tumblr.com/post/152 ... -important

Like they obviously didn't know, but why didn't they look it up before publishing the picture and their dumb commentary? Maybe it's just me but even seeing that without context would make it obvious to me that that is not some random stack of rocks. Did really nothing tick them off that maybe this was kind of an important thing to people?
The thing is: When you are a tourist, you don't always know things about stuff you're photographing. Do you think they did background checking about the Chicago Bean? The Adelaide Balls (sorry, no idea what they are really called)? Most other places and monuments they took photos of? All of them could be art, but they could very well mean something deeper as well. Yet nobody talked about it because they probably are just art or at least have no religious background. So nobody was upset they didn't do any background checking. Why would they suddenly do it, when they didn't do it before? Maybe they could have guessed it was made by the indigenous people, but technically it could have been art as well.
What I'm trying to say is that you don't really think about this when you are a tourist. Maybe you wonder what the meaning is and if it really sticks with you, you google it. But generally you just look at it, take a photo and make some sort of comment. That's how Deppy did it with all their photos and this one happened to be an important monument. But I don't think it's disrespectful if you just see something without knowing stuff about it and then comment on it. Besides I don't see "creepy af" as an insult, I see it as a compliment, but I'm weird.
Yeah, they could have done some background checking, but I don't think it occurred to them. Because often you don't think about this stuff. Is that ignorant? Yes. Makes them human. They aren't perfect. And since they just talked about the monument and not about the people that made it, I don't really see why that comment is so incredibly wrong in many peoples eyes.
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IckleMissMayhem wrote:
human wrote:
bantstrash wrote:Re the Canadian monument. Well they weren't wrong, it is like a canadian stonehenge. Stonehenge was/is a religious monument. It probably wasn't very respectful to say in the book it was creepy af but lots of religious monuments are creepy so I can understand them thinking it.
Yeah, I don't think it's a huge deal either. There are lots of meaningful monuments in London and it doesn't bother me if people who don't know what they are make jokes about how they look. It's not like these people know the meaning behind the monument and are then still making the jokes about it; that would be pretty bad but not this imo.
Didn't they also sass how underwhelming Stonehenge was/is? Didn't see any fuss then.
What next. People going to kick off cos they rehearsed for TATINOF in an old church? :roll:
They sure did say that about Stonehenge, and you are right no one made a fuss about that.
I really don't understand people making a fuss about this either. :roll: I'm pretty sure most indigenous people have bigger things to worry about than an offhand comment.
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Catallena wrote:So this isn't very cool :\

http://radioheaddan.tumblr.com/post/152 ... -important

Like they obviously didn't know, but why didn't they look it up before publishing the picture and their dumb commentary? Maybe it's just me but even seeing that without context would make it obvious to me that that is not some random stack of rocks. Did really nothing tick them off that maybe this was kind of an important thing to people?
The thing is: When you are a tourist, you don't always know things about stuff you're photographing. Do you think they did background checking about the Chicago Bean? The Adelaide Balls (sorry, no idea what they are really called)? Most other places and monuments they took photos of? All of them could be art, but they could very well mean something deeper as well. Yet nobody talked about it because they probably are just art or at least have no religious background. So nobody was upset they didn't do any background checking. Why would they suddenly do it, when they didn't do it before? Maybe they could have guessed it was made by the indigenous people, but technically it could have been art as well.
What I'm trying to say is that you don't really think about this when you are a tourist. Maybe you wonder what the meaning is and if it really sticks with you, you google it. But generally you just look at it, take a photo and make some sort of comment. That's how Deppy did it with all their photos and this one happened to be an important monument. But I don't think it's disrespectful if you just see something without knowing stuff about it and then comment on it. Besides I don't see "creepy af" as an insult, I see it as a compliment, but I'm weird.
Yeah, they could have done some background checking, but I don't think it occurred to them. Because often you don't think about this stuff. Is that ignorant? Yes. Makes them human. They aren't perfect. And since they just talked about the monument and not about the people that made it, I don't really see why that comment is so incredibly wrong in many peoples eyes.
Yes i agree with the sentiment that they probably weren't fully aware of the context and history of that 'pile of rocks', though if you read between the lines you could also see Phil's comment on it as a hint that maybe they were aware, and considered that this joking way to talk about it was the best way to 'infotain' their often very young audience. It's a book that's meant to be readable for 9 year olds as much as adults after all. Impossible to say what place they came from, but i don't think they had the intention to hurt, trivialize or otherwise demean the experience of the inuit people. Offense is always taken but not necessarily given.

Catallena : It would be great if they wrote books where they could get into their actual opinions and then maybe we'd have their reflections on the relationship between modern Canada- the indigenous peoples - the history. But I let it slide since it's ambiguous imo and it's a photobook
I think these issues are social minefields and when your view falls somewhere in between you're often hammered by both sides that either will accuse you of pandering to ethnic minorities or allowing discrimination against them. As a Dutch person you'll be aware of the whoe "Sinterklaas" controversy, which turned really really ugly and i'm expecting it to come back in full force soon :roll:
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uglyamerican wrote:Yea, and I wouldn't call the editing in the US version "censorship." It was likely a groupthink decision by a bunch of careerist mid-level publishing execs advised by overpaid/underworked lawyers about potential liability/backlash by church groups. It's all about the money (and having too many people involved in decisionmaking.)
"Underworked lawyers" in America OMG hahaha sorry this has nothing to do with DAPGO but it is hilarious

America has some of the most ridiculously restrictive advertising / publishung law and business custom. Remember all these anime dubs with cigarettes replaced with lollypop etc? And risk of liability is very real, because America is also a ridiculously puritan country, with various protest happy / occasionally also claim happy church groups, suburban parenrs associations etc and judges that pander to them

In short, I don't like this but I don't blame the publishers
Agreed. Don't know just how much clout these organisations that "self-regulate" (more like censor) hold but I would have given them extra stan points if they said fuck all and took a bold stance for alchohol :lol:
Honestly how is it logical to broadcast live police chasings, shootings and drop recruitment camps for the army in high schools but make a point out of young adults enjoying some drinks.
All this puritanism must explain the extremely low rates of drug abuse, teenage pregnancies, crime and.. oh wait.
But yea i'm preaching to the choir. Please don't let Trump win. I don't actuallly like to live in the Fallout universe
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Watched #DAPGOOSE this lovely saturday morning as I was woken up by my roommate running around at 7:30am, love life

edit: proud that my thread name got picked! Thanks everyone ~

Kinda bummed that they answered some questions we've heard the answers to before, but so is life.

We also got a cute little moment where Dan was trying to ask Phil to tell a specific story and he hardly had to say anything and Phil knew immediately what he meant

However:
Spiral of lies here:
Lie #1 : Dan raised his hand and claimed to have unstanned phil when phil said thicc. we all know Dan would never unstan
Lie #2: accidental selfie gate
Lie #3: Dan regrets everything about Youtube

Lie #1 was obviously a joke ~ However #2 and #3 are questionable. Twitter's going IN on accidental selfie gate, so I don't mean to take credit. But it was brought to my attention via my twitter feed that iPhone 6s don't have front flashes although Dan claimed to have used flash. Also just the general unlikeliness of anyone taking an accidental selfie, haha.

#3 was also a joke but it was still low key annoying to claim to regret "everything" about Youtube even tho he did low key backtrack so I'm not at all butthurt just mildly annoyed...

that's a nice segway, speaking of butthurt.

I'm going to go ahead and call you all out for being selective SJWs. Listen, I agree that calling a religious monument "creepy af" is insensitive and ignorant. Potentially harmful. Listen, I agree.

But I don't want to hear any of you saying that if you try to defend Dan (and now Phil) for their consent jokes.

There was another consent joke in dapgoose. They're scarily increasing in frequency and it's not okay. It's triggering and harmful. It's removing the seriousness of consent. You can try to claim that it's "normalizing the concept." But when you're not educating about what consent is and worse, joking about it (and therefore joking about sexual assault) like it's no big deal...there's a problem. And you guys are praising him instead of thinking "hey, maybe this is harmful to people who are victims of sexual assault." Seriously people? Dan has a huge platform, yes. He could use it to educate people, yes. But through jokes is just not the way to do it. I really doubt that someone uneducated about consent is going to hear this and be like "huh, I think I'm gonna google it and educate myself." I mean, really? Do I need to make a callout tumblr post like the one linked here for people to actually listen?
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Sorry mate but I don't think the "consent jokes" are bad. I have try to understand your point but I don't get it, and they doesn't bother me.
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majitzu wrote:Sorry mate but I don't think the "consent jokes" are bad. I have try to understand your point but I don't get it, and they doesn't bother me.
I don't really know what's hard to get to be honest Joking about something/making it into a joke --> makes it less serious --> furthering the idea that consent isn't a real thing or something to be taken seriously --> lowering the seriousness of sexual assault and making victims/survivors feel like they can't speak out/get help
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majitzu wrote:Sorry mate but I don't think the "consent jokes" are bad. I have try to understand your point but I don't get it, and they doesn't bother me.
Just wanna drop by and say that I am also in your camp.
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eevee wrote:
majitzu wrote:Sorry mate but I don't think the "consent jokes" are bad. I have try to understand your point but I don't get it, and they doesn't bother me.
I don't really know what's hard to get to be honest Joking about something/making it into a joke --> makes it less serious --> furthering the idea that consent isn't a real thing or something to be taken seriously --> lowering the seriousness of sexual assault and making victims/survivors feel like they can't speak out/get help
That is... a very odd approach. The jokes don't have that tone at all. With that approach we can't joke about political corrupturn, religion or really... most things.

And if anything, Dan's repetition of the "consent is important" adage as a basis of all jokes I would consider educatonal. For me and many of my friends, God I wish we would have heard this, even if in jokey form, when we were in our early teens
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eevee wrote:Watched #DAPGOOSE this lovely saturday morning as I was woken up by my roommate running around at 7:30am, love life

edit: proud that my thread name got picked! Thanks everyone ~

Kinda bummed that they answered some questions we've heard the answers to before, but so is life.

We also got a cute little moment where Dan was trying to ask Phil to tell a specific story and he hardly had to say anything and Phil knew immediately what he meant

However:
Spiral of lies here:
Lie #1 : Dan raised his hand and claimed to have unstanned phil when phil said thicc. we all know Dan would never unstan
Lie #2: accidental selfie gate
Lie #3: Dan regrets everything about Youtube

Lie #1 was obviously a joke ~ However #2 and #3 are questionable. Twitter's going IN on accidental selfie gate, so I don't mean to take credit. But it was brought to my attention via my twitter feed that iPhone 6s don't have front flashes although Dan claimed to have used flash. Also just the general unlikeliness of anyone taking an accidental selfie, haha.

#3 was also a joke but it was still low key annoying to claim to regret "everything" about Youtube even tho he did low key backtrack so I'm not at all butthurt just mildly annoyed...

that's a nice segway, speaking of butthurt.

I'm going to go ahead and call you all out for being selective SJWs. Listen, I agree that calling a religious monument "creepy af" is insensitive and ignorant. Potentially harmful. Listen, I agree.

But I don't want to hear any of you saying that if you try to defend Dan (and now Phil) for their consent jokes.

There was another consent joke in dapgoose. They're scarily increasing in frequency and it's not okay. It's triggering and harmful. It's removing the seriousness of consent. You can try to claim that it's "normalizing the concept." But when you're not educating about what consent is and worse, joking about it (and therefore joking about sexual assault) like it's no big deal...there's a problem. And you guys are praising him instead of thinking "hey, maybe this is harmful to people who are victims of sexual assault." Seriously people? Dan has a huge platform, yes. He could use it to educate people, yes. But through jokes is just not the way to do it. I really doubt that someone uneducated about consent is going to hear this and be like "huh, I think I'm gonna google it and educate myself." I mean, really? Do I need to make a callout tumblr post like the one linked here for people to actually listen?
Consent means you are voluntarily agreeing to allow someone to do something,it is only sexual when it is referring specifically to sexual acts, I consent to be searched when I enter concert venues, I do not consent to be photographed when I'm putting my make up on. Neither of those are sexual situations yet both require my consent. Education about sexual consent is incredibly important I fully agree, yet education about consent as a concept is also important because although linguistics change, consent has a much wider scope than specifically sexual acts. I personally think Dan has had some issues since the glozel incident, he was clearly embarrassed by it and from what I can see that's when the consent mentions started pretty much (if he's been doing it before then I apologise, I'm still a fairly new fan I haven't seen everything) She invaded his personal space very publicly and made him uncomfortable, and I think he uses the jokes as a way of coping with that and emphasising that he should be able to consent (or not) to people using him like that. I think he'd be mortified to realise that sexual assault victims are distressed by his comments.
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Hey, well thanks for the interesting contribution. I've had similar thoughts, but you collected them and structured them in a coherent narrative.
In the interest of making IDB the 'premier source for discussion ', cause I want to offer a differing opnion and cuz enjoy conversing about my faves I'm just gonna add spontaneous thoughts i had while reading.
For the purpose of clarity: I start from a different perspective (don't think they are a couple for starters) and often I draw different conclusions or read things differently, but that doesn't mean I think your opinion holds no merit.
My formal position is that we do not have enough information to draw any conclusion with certainty.
fancybum wrote:Ok so I just finished DAPGO and this is going to be... a lot. These are just some gross thoughts I've been having for a while now that basically exploded after getting through the book.

Dan and Phil. They're. So. Happy. And they love tabinof so much, they loved tatinof so much, proud af, time of their lives, yada yada. And IMO (nonbelievers run away now, shoo), one gigantic part of why they loved it all so much is that it gave them an 'excuse' if you will to be glued to each other at all times and not feel any need to hide it. No need to explain it.

I hear your logic but just want to point out that this really is pure speculation. There are many other reasons you can offer that could explain their happiness and love for TATINOF. The 'being glued together' in buses, hotels and the perception of their audience could be an unintended consequence of it all - or even something they disliked while they enjoyed doing what they did and appreciating their general friendship

Joining together to work on something that involves them both and that for two years would basically take over their lives is self-explanatory for joint travel, constant collaboration, etc. Living in each other's pockets to an extent we had never before seen, only because, leading up to that point, they felt the need to downplay it even though it has always been the case. Or attempt to downplay it. All that time spent insisting they're not a double act, they're not joined at the hip.

> Yup looking at their old live shows and stuff they do come across a bit silly insisting that they not a double act. While I think it's true they could make their own careers, they've chosen to write books together and tour the world with a show about their shared history. So you can say what you want you've sorta made your choices along the way guys :)


But IMO that unease with being lumped together came not only from the (perfectly understandable at that time/any time) desire to establish their own individual identities on their separate channels (for Dan especially to feel like he earned his stripes on his own, not just because Phil gave him a headstart on YT), but ALSO from the desire to keep genuine scrutiny away from their irl relationship (however defined).

> If that was their intention, they were pretty horrible at it. They could have also just decided to make content that wasn't so ambiguous. Skip the pinofs, amazingdans, baking vids. Edit out the love stairs, innuendo and other things that can be interpreted as more than friendship. If that is your aim...

So in the past we have all the stilted, awkward interactions, anvilicious comments intended to shut down perceptions they didn't want people to have... just clumsiness and plain old defensiveness.

But then came the gaming channel, leading to... the book! The tour! Reasons, airtight professional reasons to be together all the time, no need to qualify anything with 'this is my flatmate and he's here because X or Y'. Instead, 'this is my co-host on this channel, this is my co-author of this thing I love, we're doing a stage show to build on our existing joint work together'. Nice and clear reasons to explain, without really having to explain, why they're together 24/7. And there had to have been relief in that, it was an excuse to talk more openly about doing E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. together, bc work.

> K so i interpret this as the core of the idea you're presenting. That would make sense, but imo it's circular because it already assumes the conclusion to arrive at it. Yes, if they were a couple looking for excuses to do everything together, putting everything under the 'work' umbrella would be an effective way to hide from some scrutiny.
But it's just as valid to presume that one work project just led to another resulting in an ever increasing professional engagement. The basis of friendship, whether they are lovers or not is there anyways, so I deem it plausible that things just grew organically. You don't have to add the motive of trying to hide something to explain the current state of affairs of their channels/brands/relationship.


We didn't even have that much of an idea before this year just how involved they are in each other's videos (meaning non-joint-spon, non-gaming, just their individual videos. They're all up in there at all times), the surprises of 'oh he helped film? oh he suggested that? etc' because they started opening up more about those details. Because whatever, it's work. And they could finally talk about it and finally give less fucks because they wrote a damn book together, they're doing a stage show together, who cares if they're editing the other's YT videos on top of everything else? They went next level and the book/tour allowed them to do that. They're disgustingly happy together and the book/tour allowed them to show it in all its hideous beauty. They're having fun with work!

They could feel free to post cute pics under the cover of book/tour hype/promo. Things they maybe could have been doing all along if they weren't so protective of their private lives and so worried about people taking little fun moments and linking them to 'phan', getting too real, crossing lines, all of that.

This I find contradictory. If they want to be protective of their private lives, work or not, you don't don't make the photo book full of pictures. Why if you want to avoid scrutiny of your relationship do you have a fanart and fanfic segment in the show you yourself create? Either you're trying to let people 'subtly' know you're a couple (though it's not subtle and it'd be quite a bizarre way to go about it) or you're at the very least engaging with the phan idea and inviting your audience to it, while you're denying/ have denied to be in a relationship. Ambiguity everywhere

Now OBV people still make those links, they literally cannot be stopped, but at least from an outside and more objective view, they're just 2 dudes promoting their joint content, nothing to see here, keep walking. And that there's the thing, that's why people just tossing around 'fanservice' (and in most cases not even as criticism, I know) gets to me so often; because from my perspective (and only mine yeah I need to chill out sometimes when other people differ I KNOW) it's a service to themselves (lol).

So TO ME it feels shitty to see two people being more comfortable with themselves and with each other, being more open, less guarded, less careful at all times, less afraid even, and just reduce it to 'playing up to what the viewers want'. Especially looking back at everything leading up to this point in 2016- their early defensiveness (mostly Dan's) and pushing back at just giving into viewer demands and all the resentment there and then. Being happy and playful and sure, domestic, with each other now as fanservice, and not because that's what comes naturally to them and they don't care to hide it anymore, doesn't really work for me.

You seem to approach this from an either/or mindset. I think both are true. I don't like the word 'fanservice' because it's pretty vague as a concept. However I do think that what we see in their edited video's are an interaction of what comes natural to them, of what is their genuine fondness and friendship for each other and the desire of them to 'make a good video' which entails that they take into account what they think the public expects of them. there's many considerations that go into making their video's i bet but just like the persona- vs authentic personality debate ... i think what we see is a mix of all. They are probably less energetic, lovey-dove with each other when the camera is switched off, but it starts from a real basis (imo: their friendship). They have an insane bantz per minute number, it's almost impossible that they throw around so many puns 24/24. It's like any sort of acting where you strive to be realistic: you magnify certain traits and certain behavior in the interest of making the sketch as 'good' as you can.

Fanservice is Dan "giving in" to viewer demand and playing Undertale on the gaming channel. And he's complained about it, and made guilt-mongering remarks about it: he wanted to play it on his own to properly appreciate the story, but you damn viewers wouldn't shut up, so fine, he's playing it and selling his integrity blah blah blah. 'Fanservice Dan' is a whiny brat (still love him but. come. on.). How he acts with Phil is not a surrender to demanding viewers; they didn't get worn down over the years to the point of giving in. They've just eased into being more public with what they already were and are in private: a unit. The fact that fans like it isn't why they're doing it (which is not to say they're not aware that fans like it, they're not idiots), they're doing it because they like it. They show each other off and talk each other up, sometimes so much it's like they're making up for lost time.

> I agree. i believe that ultimately, what they show is meant to reflect how they broadly feel about things and that they are comfortable doing it. ( but ofc I think it is all contained within the context of friendship)
K I'm go read some more DAPGO. I do wish they'll feel more comfortable with physical intimacy


There's still that one area that seems mostly off-limits though: physical intimacy. Man, was I looking for a hug in DAPGO like it was a drop of water in the desert. Anything. We got Phil's fingers in Dan's mouth, sure. Them sitting on top of each other all over the world because they don't understand the concept of personal space. But no hugs, not even a lazy arm resting over a shoulder. If irl they give each other those sad and limp M&G hugs, it would be the ultimate cosmic joke. We just really don't know.

Public Touching (yes, there's an L in there pervs): that's still a bridge too far for them 97% of the time. So the rare instances stand out, like the joyful attack in Impossible Quiz 2. Noted, adored by all. Then it pops up in the preview screen for their next gaming video and from the darkness comes the unholy shrieking of "Fanservice!11". I imagine Dan and Phil shrugging at each other, "I just thought it was cute," in response. What kind of shit like that have they just gotten used to cutting out of videos, how practiced have they become over the years in physically restraining themselves and backing off what their instincts are itching for them to do? Always overly aware of the eyes on the other side of the camera and never fully at ease with them:
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Now they let the odd one slip by, happily. They're each other's biggest fans and it's never been more apparent than this last year. Ummm which I guess brings me to the end of this rant review.

tldr: I loved DAPGO. Did you read this whole thing? Sort your life out.
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eevee wrote:
majitzu wrote:Sorry mate but I don't think the "consent jokes" are bad. I have try to understand your point but I don't get it, and they doesn't bother me.
I don't really know what's hard to get to be honest Joking about something/making it into a joke --> makes it less serious --> furthering the idea that consent isn't a real thing or something to be taken seriously --> lowering the seriousness of sexual assault and making victims/survivors feel like they can't speak out/get help
This makes me remember the...
I lose my pencil --> I can't write notes --> I can't study --> I fail my tests --> I leave uni --> I can't find a job --> I don't have money --> I can't buy food --> I die.
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gnostic wrote:
uglyamerican wrote:Yea, and I wouldn't call the editing in the US version "censorship." It was likely a groupthink decision by a bunch of careerist mid-level publishing execs advised by overpaid/underworked lawyers about potential liability/backlash by church groups. It's all about the money (and having too many people involved in decisionmaking.)
"Underworked lawyers" in America OMG hahaha sorry this has nothing to do with DAPGO but it is hilarious

America has some of the most ridiculously restrictive advertising / publishung law and business custom. Remember all these anime dubs with cigarettes replaced with lollypop etc? And risk of liability is very real, because America is also a ridiculously puritan country, with various protest happy / occasionally also claim happy church groups, suburban parenrs associations etc and judges that pander to them

In short, I don't like this but I don't blame the publishers
THIS. People seem to forget our founding fathers ahem, issues.

Cotton Mather, anyone?

Yes, we still are a puritan country, and this is how we started and how we continue today. There was a movement to remove the Starbuck's nipples, there's always someone pissed off about "In God We Trust" on public buildings, what can be acceptable as a children's book, et al.
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eevee wrote:Watched #DAPGOOSE this lovely saturday morning as I was woken up by my roommate running around at 7:30am, love life

edit: proud that my thread name got picked! Thanks everyone ~

Kinda bummed that they answered some questions we've heard the answers to before, but so is life.

We also got a cute little moment where Dan was trying to ask Phil to tell a specific story and he hardly had to say anything and Phil knew immediately what he meant

However:
Spiral of lies here:
Lie #1 : Dan raised his hand and claimed to have unstanned phil when phil said thicc. we all know Dan would never unstan
Lie #2: accidental selfie gate
Lie #3: Dan regrets everything about Youtube

Lie #1 was obviously a joke ~ However #2 and #3 are questionable. Twitter's going IN on accidental selfie gate, so I don't mean to take credit. But it was brought to my attention via my twitter feed that iPhone 6s don't have front flashes although Dan claimed to have used flash. Also just the general unlikeliness of anyone taking an accidental selfie, haha.

#3 was also a joke but it was still low key annoying to claim to regret "everything" about Youtube even tho he did low key backtrack so I'm not at all butthurt just mildly annoyed...

that's a nice segway, speaking of butthurt.

I'm going to go ahead and call you all out for being selective SJWs. Listen, I agree that calling a religious monument "creepy af" is insensitive and ignorant. Potentially harmful. Listen, I agree.

But I don't want to hear any of you saying that if you try to defend Dan (and now Phil) for their consent jokes.

There was another consent joke in dapgoose. They're scarily increasing in frequency and it's not okay. It's triggering and harmful. It's removing the seriousness of consent. You can try to claim that it's "normalizing the concept." But when you're not educating about what consent is and worse, joking about it (and therefore joking about sexual assault) like it's no big deal...there's a problem. And you guys are praising him instead of thinking "hey, maybe this is harmful to people who are victims of sexual assault." Seriously people? Dan has a huge platform, yes. He could use it to educate people, yes. But through jokes is just not the way to do it. I really doubt that someone uneducated about consent is going to hear this and be like "huh, I think I'm gonna google it and educate myself." I mean, really? Do I need to make a callout tumblr post like the one linked here for people to actually listen?

Oh wow k thanks for bringing selfie gate to my attention. So i wasn't alone. I found it suspicious in how he was obviously stressing the #relatable aspect and how.. he just looked to damn good. Nice try Dan :p
Also, 80 tries for the florida hat pic? Talk to me again about how your pics were all spur of the moment and unplanned :lol:

As for the consent jokes: I understand how in the face of real social issues and considering the personal experiences of victims those jokes are not funny at all to you. But i disagree that it needs to be problematic. They have decided to be entertainers first. A lot of their jokes can be deemed offensive to a lot of different groups and points of view in society. I would like them to offer their opinions on serious issues, and I think it would help to contextualize their jokes and vids. But they rarely do. I can respect that choice even if I deeply regret it. They don't have an responsibility an sich to educate their audience. Jokes interpreted by an audience that might lack basic knowledge or awareness of the underlying concepts will always be sour to some, but I think that we can't require people to censor their sense of humor, even if it's tasteless, to consider all possible effects it might have on their audience.
For similar reasons I do not think 'safe spaces' are something you can expect society as a whole to uphold. There's a difference between what you can expect from someone you see as a friend or therapist or judge vis-a-vis what you can demand from the public at large.
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Incredibly off topic but if anyone remembers phils "who pooed in my fridge" photo from a few pages back well I saw a clip of that show (my YouTube suggestions are always weird) and the answer was no one pooed in her fridge she was just a scary lady who wanted to say something gross about her family. Just in case anyone was wondering!
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Stakhanov wrote:
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uglyamerican wrote:Yea, and I wouldn't call the editing in the US version "censorship." It was likely a groupthink decision by a bunch of careerist mid-level publishing execs advised by overpaid/underworked lawyers about potential liability/backlash by church groups. It's all about the money (and having too many people involved in decisionmaking.)
"Underworked lawyers" in America OMG hahaha sorry this has nothing to do with DAPGO but it is hilarious

America has some of the most ridiculously restrictive advertising / publishung law and business custom. Remember all these anime dubs with cigarettes replaced with lollypop etc? And risk of liability is very real, because America is also a ridiculously puritan country, with various protest happy / occasionally also claim happy church groups, suburban parenrs associations etc and judges that pander to them

In short, I don't like this but I don't blame the publishers
Agreed. Don't know just how much clout these organisations that "self-regulate" (more like censor) hold but I would have given them extra stan points if they said fuck all and took a bold stance for alchohol :lol:
Honestly how is it logical to broadcast live police chasings, shootings and drop recruitment camps for the army in high schools but make a point out of young adults enjoying some drinks.
All this puritanism must explain the extremely low rates of drug abuse, teenage pregnancies, crime and.. oh wait.
But yea i'm preaching to the choir. Please don't let Trump win. I don't actuallly like to live in the Fallout universe
We tried the "bold stance on alcohol" and we see where that ended us LOL.

In fact, is it the publishers decision to edit where they feel the need. If this book was published under simply Random House, there would be no issue. Alas, it's Random House for Young Adults and they need to keep it "tame" so they don't get harrassed by those parents/booksellers who are mortified that two white men from the UK are OMG DRINKING.

Also? This is America. We are at the end of 2016 and we are FINALLY accepting mixed-raced couples in television commercials. We are SO non-progressive...
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bantstrash wrote:Re the Canadian monument. Well they weren't wrong, it is like a canadian stonehenge. Stonehenge was/is a religious monument. It probably wasn't very respectful to say in the book it was creepy af but lots of religious monuments are creepy so I can understand them thinking it.
Yeah, I don't think it's a huge deal either. There are lots of meaningful monuments in London and it doesn't bother me if people who don't know what they are make jokes about how they look. It's not like these people know the meaning behind the monument and are then still making the jokes about it; that would be pretty bad but not this imo.
Didn't they also sass how underwhelming Stonehenge was/is? Didn't see any fuss then.
What next. People going to kick off cos they rehearsed for TATINOF in an old church? :roll:
They sure did say that about Stonehenge, and you are right no one made a fuss about that.
I really don't understand people making a fuss about this either. :roll: I'm pretty sure most indigenous people have bigger things to worry about than an offhand comment.
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Catallena wrote:So this isn't very cool :\

http://radioheaddan.tumblr.com/post/152 ... -important

Like they obviously didn't know, but why didn't they look it up before publishing the picture and their dumb commentary? Maybe it's just me but even seeing that without context would make it obvious to me that that is not some random stack of rocks. Did really nothing tick them off that maybe this was kind of an important thing to people?
The thing is: When you are a tourist, you don't always know things about stuff you're photographing. Do you think they did background checking about the Chicago Bean? The Adelaide Balls (sorry, no idea what they are really called)? Most other places and monuments they took photos of? All of them could be art, but they could very well mean something deeper as well. Yet nobody talked about it because they probably are just art or at least have no religious background. So nobody was upset they didn't do any background checking. Why would they suddenly do it, when they didn't do it before? Maybe they could have guessed it was made by the indigenous people, but technically it could have been art as well.
What I'm trying to say is that you don't really think about this when you are a tourist. Maybe you wonder what the meaning is and if it really sticks with you, you google it. But generally you just look at it, take a photo and make some sort of comment. That's how Deppy did it with all their photos and this one happened to be an important monument. But I don't think it's disrespectful if you just see something without knowing stuff about it and then comment on it. Besides I don't see "creepy af" as an insult, I see it as a compliment, but I'm weird.
Yeah, they could have done some background checking, but I don't think it occurred to them. Because often you don't think about this stuff. Is that ignorant? Yes. Makes them human. They aren't perfect. And since they just talked about the monument and not about the people that made it, I don't really see why that comment is so incredibly wrong in many peoples eyes.
I don't think they had any intent to hurt or offend people either but that doesn't make it okay? ~They didn't know~ like I get that, but they made the choice not to look it up afterwards (in an age where information about literally anything is a Google search away no less) and then included it in the book with some unfunny commentary. And I'm not a fan of call out culture, but bringing their insensitivity to their attention and educating them and their audience isn't gonna hurt anyone. People wouldn't shut up about the fanart controversy in TABINOF, I find this far more important and it gets largely ignored.

Comparisons with Stonehange in the UK, the church they practiced in, or even The Bean ain't gonna fly with me I'm sorry, none of those things have to do with the struggles of a minority. Afaik Stonehenge is an ancient structure (in their own country) that was build by a civilization that no longer exists. It still holds some religious meaning to Druids (though they didn't build it) but while that isn't exactly a major religion they're not oppressed in anyway. Inuit people still exist, these structures are still very important to them, and they get systematically oppressed and erased by the Canadian government which even compared to the struggles of Native Americans flies massively under the radar because of Canada's 'good guy' image. The re-purposed church? Christians in the UK are a major religion and do not get oppressed by their government. As far as The Bean goes, that is a wold famous art sculpture and I'm pretty sure they knew what it was even before visiting considering it gets quite a lot of attention in popular media (including a Kanye video). If they didn't know (and this goes for any of the landmarks they visited) then yeah, they could've done some research before putting it on paper and publishing it. A good author (lol) does some basic research about thing they're putting in their book at the very least. Hell, even as a tourist I just like knowing what the hell I'm looking at.

And there was a point in time where I actually went to a school specialized in tourism and hospitality and interned at the front desk of a big hotel in Amsterdam (it was hell) so I know tourists are usually the epitome of ignorance and dumbassery but most of them also don't make a book out of their travels that then gets read worldwide by a young and impressionable audience. They get to be insensitive in their own little Facebook bubble where they share the annual family holiday pics with friends and family who do not care. Again, D&P had the responsibility for the content of that book and the chose not to do some research before calling things creepy. So their ignorance might make them more human or whatever, but that it ended up in the book was their choice and people are allowed to be disappointed and not pleased with their ignorance that easily could've been avoided.
Stakhanov wrote:Catallena : It would be great if they wrote books where they could get into their actual opinions and then maybe we'd have their reflections on the relationship between modern Canada- the indigenous peoples - the history. But I let it slide since it's ambiguous imo and it's a photobook
I think these issues are social minefields and when your view falls somewhere in between you're often hammered by both sides that either will accuse you of pandering to ethnic minorities or allowing discrimination against them. As a Dutch person you'll be aware of the whoe "Sinterklaas" controversy, which turned really really ugly and i'm expecting it to come back in full force soon :roll:
I don't really want a book about the opinions of two rich privileged white boys, they can keep that in liveshows or something :') But yeah the Sinterklaas discussion gets worse and I even had a major fight with my mom about it last week, so I'm considering moving to Antarctica until it's over. :thumb:

About consent jokes, they don't bother me but I do get how they could bother eevee and other people. It's the same with Dan calling Tabitha a stinky hoe or whatever, I really don't care and don't consider words like that a slur against women or whatever (at least not when said in that context). But other people can and I'm gonna respect that, as long as they respect mine and others right not to be offended. Like even I'm not saying you all have to be offended over the Stonehenge thing either, it isn't even our place because I don't think any of us are Inuit. But listening and supporting people who are is important, and I am a bit disappointed in D&P so I'd like this to be brought their attention. Dan wants to be socially aware and shit, let's help him with that. Immediately saying 'they didn't know, so it's okay' is too easy and doesn't help anyone. Education is important.
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gnostic wrote:That is... a very odd approach. The jokes don't have that tone at all. With that approach we can't joke about political corrupturn, religion or really... most things.

And if anything, Dan's repetition of the "consent is important" adage as a basis of all jokes I would consider educatonal. For me and many of my friends, God I wish we would have heard this, even if in jokey form, when we were in our early teens
....okay we're clearly not gonna see eye to eye on this issue
Sakura Selfie wrote:I personally think Dan has had some issues since the glozel incident, he was clearly embarrassed by it and from what I can see that's when the consent mentions started pretty much...She invaded his personal space very publicly and made him uncomfortable, and I think he uses the jokes as a way of coping with that and emphasising that he should be able to consent (or not) to people using him like that.
I knew someone was gonna bring up the "using jokes to cope" argument and I don't have anything to say to that because I don't know how violated he actually felt and if he's coping. But I still feel like he should consider the impact of his remarks to such a large audience and maybe not make them on camera :thumb:
Sakura Selfie wrote:I think he'd be mortified to realise that sexual assault victims are distressed by his comments.
Well that's a shame but sadly life isn't perfect and sometimes things you don't intend to happen, happen.
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I lose my pencil --> I can't write notes --> I can't study --> I fail my tests --> I leave uni --> I can't find a job --> I don't have money --> I can't buy food --> I die.
I really shouldn't even respond to this because it's so offensive and ignorant but I'm just gonna say that's a really terrible way to view people getting triggered by jokes
Stakhanov wrote: As for the consent jokes: I understand how in the face of real social issues and considering the personal experiences of victims those jokes are not funny at all to you. But i disagree that it needs to be problematic. They have decided to be entertainers first. A lot of their jokes can be deemed offensive to a lot of different groups and points of view in society. I would like them to offer their opinions on serious issues, and I think it would help to contextualize their jokes and vids. But they rarely do. I can respect that choice even if I deeply regret it. They don't have an responsibility an sich to educate their audience. Jokes interpreted by an audience that might lack basic knowledge or awareness of the underlying concepts will always be sour to some, but I think that we can't require people to censor their sense of humor, even if it's tasteless, to consider all possible effects it might have on their audience.
Thank you for being the only person with an argument that actually makes sense to me However I feel like if Dan were a Comedy Central comedian constantly making jokes about sensitive topics like race, religion, sex, etc then I wouldn't be so upset by what I interpret as rape jokes. But Dan likes to be socially conscious and unproblematic so I really feel like the "he's a comedian" argument isn't as credible as it could be.

Note to everyone who disagrees with me: just because you personally are not offended by a joke does not mean it can't be offensive to someone else.

Also, I am not attacking Dan. I'm sorry if it came off that way. I'm just calling him out for problematic behavior as some others were doing earlier about a different topic.
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LOL I wasn't buying Dan's morning selfie either. It looked way too much like a picture someone would take of the person they adore when they've been wanting their attention and they finally wake up. It was too precious.

I didn't know enough about the mechanics of whether there's a front flash on the phone or not, it just didn't feel like that, nor do I think they'd have bothered including it in the book if that's what really happened.

I agree that a lot of what they do is for themselves and their own enjoyment, as well it should be. Although I do live for the day that they no longer feel the need to censor themselves. In DAPGOOSE Phil tells the story about the couple making out in the elevator when he was going back to his room from Dan's. Being , I could have lived without it but if they are together and need to keep it private, I guess it's a small price to pay (seeing as how it's not really any of my business anyway)
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re: consent jokes i don't really find them funny- i get he's probably trying to normalize consent but like. they arent really funny and if he wanted to do so he could make a video on it, even though that isn't typical dinof style. i just think they probably offend a lot of people and every time he makes one it irks me a bit.

re: favorite parts of dapgo the florida bit!! as a floridian i was so excited that they gave a couple of pages to this humid hell. i also loved the pics of phil feeding dan and the spoonfeeding medicine part was so adorable

re: the morning 'selfie' alongside the fact that dan used a 5 on tour b/c his 6 was broken(which doesn't have front flash, as he claimed to use), i noticed in the background of the photo you can see the curtains from the bedroom and well as the white bedsheets- the bunk sheets were brown as phil pointed out. it's pretty cute that phil probably took that picture.
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I don't think they had any intent to hurt or offend people either but that doesn't make it okay? ~They didn't know~ like I get that, but they made the choice not to look it up afterwards (in an age where information about literally anything is a Google search away no less) and then included it in the book with some unfunny commentary. And I'm not a fan of call out culture, but bringing their insensitivity to their attention and educating them and their audience isn't gonna hurt anyone. People wouldn't shut up about the fanart controversy in TABINOF, I find this far more important and it gets largely ignored.

Comparisons with Stonehange in the UK, the church they practiced in, or even The Bean ain't gonna fly with me I'm sorry, none of those things have to do with the struggles of a minority. Afaik Stonehenge is an ancient structure (in their own country) that was build by a civilization that no longer exists. It still holds some religious meaning to Druids (though they didn't build it) but while that isn't exactly a major religion they're not oppressed in anyway. Inuit people still exist, these structures are still very important to them, and they get systematically oppressed and erased by the Canadian government which even compared to the struggles of Native Americans flies massively under the radar because of Canada's 'good guy' image. The re-purposed church? Christians in the UK are a major religion and do not get oppressed by their government. As far as The Bean goes, that is a wold famous art sculpture and I'm pretty sure they knew what it was even before visiting considering it gets quite a lot of attention in popular media (including a Kanye video). If they didn't know (and this goes for any of the landmarks they visited) then yeah, they could've done some research before putting it on paper and publishing it. A good author (lol) does some basic research about thing they're putting in their book at the very least. Hell, even as a tourist I just like knowing what the hell I'm looking at.

And there was a point in time where I actually went to a school specialized in tourism and hospitality and interned at the front desk of a big hotel in Amsterdam (it was hell) so I know tourists are usually the epitome of ignorance and dumbassery but most of them also don't make a book out of their travels that then gets read worldwide by a young and impressionable audience. They get to be insensitive in their own little Facebook bubble where they share the annual family holiday pics with friends and family who do not care. Again, D&P had the responsibility for the content of that book and the chose not to do some research before calling things creepy. So their ignorance might make them more human or whatever, but that it ended up in the book was their choice and people are allowed to be disappointed and not pleased with their ignorance that easily could've been avoided.

About consent jokes, they don't bother me but I do get how they could bother eevee and other people. It's the same with Dan calling Tabitha a stinky hoe or whatever, I really don't care and don't consider words like that a slur against women or whatever (at least not when said in that context). But other people can and I'm gonna respect that, as long as they respect mine and others right not to be offended. Like even I'm not saying you all have to be offended over the Stonehenge thing either, it isn't even our place because I don't think any of us are Inuit. But listening and supporting people who are is important, and I am a bit disappointed in D&P so I'd like this to be brought their attention. Dan wants to be socially aware and shit, let's help him with that. Immediately saying 'they didn't know, so it's okay' is too easy and doesn't help anyone. Education is important.
Catching up on this discussion I was about to point out these things and but you already hit the nail on the head with your post, couldn't agree more!

The treatment of Inuit/Native american population is still such an immensely relevant topic today, especially in light of recent news from Standing Rock, so that their comments on the picture made me feel really uncomfortable.

Honestly I wouldn't hold most other "celebs" to the same standards but Dan is a self-proclaimed tumblr nerd who tries to be sj-aware, so I can't really believe that he never came across a post about these issues on his dash. And this isn't about making them look like horrible people, it's about having a discussion on certain issues so they can learn and grow. (like they did in the past, considering how what kind of jokes Dan used to make..).

I don't find the consent jokes too offensive, although I am sensitive on that topic. They still use them in the right context so it's fine. Other youtubers are way worse on that matter. I think the problem is not about making jokes in general (because humor can help to educate people) but about taking a thing out of context to ridicule it, like many guys do exaggurate feminist claims to turn them into a laughing matter and brush them off.
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eevee I was one of the first to say why I could understand where you were coming from even if I personally didn't agree, but I do need to mention something that has been bugging me immensely. I'm not trying to attack you or anything, but I actually stopped reading one of your fics because of how you addressed the overall issue of consent.

I'm going to put this under a spoiler.
You tagged the fic as including only light hazing which included pledges of a frat being required to give bjs to get into the frat. I'm sorry, but in my opinion, that plays way more closely to minimizing sexual assault in regards to consent. It undermines power dynamics that people are often placed in where they don't feel like they can say no or at least can't refuse without consequences. Any consent given in those types of circumstances is questionable and unfortunately is a very real issue in regards to sexual assault cases. Now I am not shaming what you write or trying to censor you, I personally am a huge fan of fanfiction. But tagging that as only light hazing seems contradictory to your repeated stance on Dan's consent jokes as being harmful. So maybe change that?
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Anyone else read the DAPGOOSE vid description fully?
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Ties in well with the "Let's Go Home" style comments they've been making recently. Although TATINOF won't be done til mid-December, and they're fairly busy with odd things til then... January may be an interesting time.
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Stakhanov: Thanks for the in depth (heh) response to the post (and thanks everyone else who said nice things ). I don't want to go back and forth all day as we have different views and aren't going to switch but I just want to clarify like two things. And if you disagree with those too, oh well (and also just re: the first thing you said 'it's pure speculation' lol yes, yes it is. the whole post with my ample use of IMO and TO ME is dripping with speculation. Agree hard there):
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fancybum wrote:But then came the gaming channel, leading to... the book! The tour! Reasons, airtight professional reasons to be together all the time, no need to qualify anything with 'this is my flatmate and he's here because X or Y'. Instead, 'this is my co-host on this channel, this is my co-author of this thing I love, we're doing a stage show to build on our existing joint work together'. Nice and clear reasons to explain, without really having to explain, why they're together 24/7. And there had to have been relief in that, it was an excuse to talk more openly about doing E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G. together, bc work.

-K so i interpret this as the core of the idea you're presenting. That would make sense, but imo it's circular because it already assumes the conclusion to arrive at it. Yes, if they were a couple looking for excuses to do everything together, putting everything under the 'work' umbrella would be an effective way to hide from some scrutiny.
But it's just as valid to presume that one work project just led to another resulting in an ever increasing professional engagement. The basis of friendship, whether they are lovers or not is there anyways, so I deem it plausible that things just grew organically. You don't have to add the motive of trying to hide something to explain the current state of affairs of their channels/brands/relationship.
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-This I find contradictory. If they want to be protective of their private lives, work or not, you don't don't make the photo book full of pictures. Why if you want to avoid scrutiny of your relationship do you have a fanart and fanfic segment in the show you yourself create? Either you're trying to let people 'subtly' know you're a couple (though it's not subtle and it'd be quite a bizarre way to go about it) or you're at the very least engaging with the phan idea and inviting your audience to it, while you're denying/ have denied to be in a relationship. Ambiguity everywhere
Actually maybe just one thing since these both kind deal with the 'hiding' aspect.

I'm not saying they were looking for excuses to do things together, I'm saying they already did everything together and felt a pressure to hide or attempt to justify that, and then with the book and everything, they didn't have that pressure anymore. And they got to the point where (while still wanting to keep their romantic lives private) they could chill the f out with worrying how things might look. You think it's contradictory to hide their relationship (if a romantic/etc one exists) while (as I'm saying) 'being more comfortable/open'. But when I say that, I mean with themselves in general and with peoples perceptions of them that they can't control. Like the vague 'defensiveness/overcompensating' things I'm referring to mean the overdone boob talk in 2012, the attempted casual 'you/I need a girlfriend dude' comments back in the day, meant to influence their audience away from speculating on their sexualities and following from that, on 'phan' itself.

I'm just saying, they don't care anymore, people are going to think what they want to think. And D&P are going to act how they want to act- it's not a tease or a wink about their irl relationship, it's a loosening of their grip on things they can't control while moving beyond letting those things control them. Like heck yes that tour was a big deal to them for many reasons and (even though it was contractually required to produce a second book, yeah yeah, capitalism boo hiss etc), they still wanted to have that keepsake the way they wanted it. Them being a couple shouldn't mean they can't release a picture book of their adventure, and I'm glad it didn't stop them. There will always be ambiguity because they're not confirming it anytime soon, but they're done hiding and stressing like they did in years past. IMO. If any of that makes sense. Just wanted to clear some of that up (?try to?) if it got lost in my original rambling. I do see where you're coming from though, and yup the speculation is as valid as anyone else's. Again, not expecting to change any minds, and that's fine.
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